Does anyone else think that this is a little bit backward? The way we teach rape prevention is female self-defense? It's ridiculous. In order to curb rape, we teach women to carry mace, to have their keys out before heading towards the car, how to punch with keys in hand, what to look out for, not to travel alone...yada yada yada. Does anyone else see what's missing from the picture?
A huge majority of rapes are committed by men against women. Rape isn't just any violent crime; it's a crime against sexual orientation/gender, and is a crime of power. Rape is to reinforce the idea that women are to be sub-dominant to men. The very way we go about preventing rape only strengthens the idea that men are above women. We teach women to fear men, that men will hurt them, that there's always someone lurking in the shadows, that they need men to protect them from other men. Our current steps in rape prevention only underline the ingrained thoughts-of-difference between men and women.
Not only that, our rape prevention strategies are targeting the wrong crowd. It would be like in attempts to prevent graffiti, we educated store owners not to build stores in certain areas, and then let them fend for themselves against the graffiti artists. Rape prevention is currently burdening women to prevent rape. It creates an unspoken idea that it is up to women to stop rape. This is wrong, and backwards.
Real rape prevention should be directed at men, specifically young boys. The action heroes, police dramas, toys, and video games all teach boys that men are supposed to be violent. That real men use violence. There is danger in this if we ignore/dismiss the notion. Just look around us. Violent, aggressive, men are idealized and it's what many boys strive to be. Real men shot guns, kill bad guys, get in fights, and in some cases, objectify women. James Bond? The girls in music videos? Porn easily accessible? Take that into consideration when we add in the thought that women need men to protect them, and need to be educated in ways to fend off male assailants, and what do we get? The idea that women are less of a person than men.
So what does this have to do with rape prevention/education? Well before anyone gets in an uproar about how I painted an unfair image of men, that we can't go around changing society, that men aren't violent, and yada yada yada...just consider for a second that I might be right. Just maybe, we do idealize, on a general basis, violent men, and that just maybe this is what many (definitely not all) boys strive to grow up to be like. The rough and tumble fighter who gets to fuck a million ladies. Maybe, just maybe, we're giving our boys some whacky role models, or at the very least, failing in educating them about how to treat women.
So what can be changed in rape prevention? Take the burden of prevention off of women, and give it to men. Rape is overwhelmingly committed by men, so why don't we focus a majority of rape prevention towards men? We need to educate young men, especially boys, in ways of fair/equal treatment of women, and work on erasing the idea that women are second rate citizens. Educate boys in ways to keep from objectifying women, and start on deconstructing the control of power men have over women.
***those are just my thoughts, I'd like if people shared theirs!***
A huge majority of rapes are committed by men against women. Rape isn't just any violent crime; it's a crime against sexual orientation/gender, and is a crime of power. Rape is to reinforce the idea that women are to be sub-dominant to men. The very way we go about preventing rape only strengthens the idea that men are above women. We teach women to fear men, that men will hurt them, that there's always someone lurking in the shadows, that they need men to protect them from other men. Our current steps in rape prevention only underline the ingrained thoughts-of-difference between men and women.
Not only that, our rape prevention strategies are targeting the wrong crowd. It would be like in attempts to prevent graffiti, we educated store owners not to build stores in certain areas, and then let them fend for themselves against the graffiti artists. Rape prevention is currently burdening women to prevent rape. It creates an unspoken idea that it is up to women to stop rape. This is wrong, and backwards.
Real rape prevention should be directed at men, specifically young boys. The action heroes, police dramas, toys, and video games all teach boys that men are supposed to be violent. That real men use violence. There is danger in this if we ignore/dismiss the notion. Just look around us. Violent, aggressive, men are idealized and it's what many boys strive to be. Real men shot guns, kill bad guys, get in fights, and in some cases, objectify women. James Bond? The girls in music videos? Porn easily accessible? Take that into consideration when we add in the thought that women need men to protect them, and need to be educated in ways to fend off male assailants, and what do we get? The idea that women are less of a person than men.
So what does this have to do with rape prevention/education? Well before anyone gets in an uproar about how I painted an unfair image of men, that we can't go around changing society, that men aren't violent, and yada yada yada...just consider for a second that I might be right. Just maybe, we do idealize, on a general basis, violent men, and that just maybe this is what many (definitely not all) boys strive to grow up to be like. The rough and tumble fighter who gets to fuck a million ladies. Maybe, just maybe, we're giving our boys some whacky role models, or at the very least, failing in educating them about how to treat women.
So what can be changed in rape prevention? Take the burden of prevention off of women, and give it to men. Rape is overwhelmingly committed by men, so why don't we focus a majority of rape prevention towards men? We need to educate young men, especially boys, in ways of fair/equal treatment of women, and work on erasing the idea that women are second rate citizens. Educate boys in ways to keep from objectifying women, and start on deconstructing the control of power men have over women.
***those are just my thoughts, I'd like if people shared theirs!***