- MBTI
- infj
- Enneagram
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Bob met May years ago, 10 years ago to be precise. They always had a pretty cool connection, they were both similar in a lot of ways too... the only problem was circumstance, one was either going to a different school or a different state, or got involved with someone, but they always carried that connection, and for 10 years they came into and out of each others lives, time and time again.
There was a really awesome connectivity that kept them coming back to one and other, and even though they never had sex or anything like that they always knew that they were very interested in one and other, even if it was just a "what if" thing because they loved the times they had together. They were friends for years, ad because of differing times and schedules and careers and schools they always ended up far away so MUCH of this went through phone calls and chat cameras etc in the dorm room.
Essentially they grew up away form one and other but together.
Recently Bob got out of a very long relationship, May found out and they got to talking about it and whatnot, there was still a lot there. May on the other hand moved to another country and married some guy.
May has been married for 3 years... Bob is single.
Once again Bob and May enter into each others lives from afar, May tells Bob that she is extremely unhappy in her marriage because Mike (the husband) is a complete self absorbed person who is ambition-less, emotionally vacant, and extremely possessive. May says she isn't allowed to have any friends, Mike runs them all off, but he also ignores her all night when they're home.
Mike aside for a bit.
May and Bob really start talking a lot, more so then EVER before, not just flirting and pleasantries but deep deep conversations about anything you can imagine. And its good. SO good.
May feels happy, she confides that she has always loved Bob and always wondered what if, and why Bob didn't make a move.
Bob admits that for years he was extremely insecure about himself and other things so he found it too hard to open up and speak from a place of truth and openness. But that recent revelations had opened his eyes to a lot of things, and that he also had major feelings for May.
May and Bob fall in love.
Mike is completely unaware, he doesn't care enough to figure out why May is suddenly happy when shes always miserable. May begins to distance herself from Mike and gravitate towards Bob since Bob is finally "emotionally stable and open" enough to have a real meaningful relationship with her.
May tells Bob that she is going to divorce Mike, not for Bob, she refuses to let it be about that and much to Bobs relief neither does he... but she says "you're just a catalyst for me to break free from this misery" She says she always wanted Bob and that they should meet up asap. And that she feels horrible about the situation, not that she is talking to Bob, that she is married to Mike, and she says she cant even let Mike kiss her goodnight without feeling terrible, she feels like she is cheating... but she says she feels like shes cheating on Bob, not Mike.
Tonight May told Mike that she needed time to think and be separate so she can clear her head.
This came on after weeks of deciding when the right time to tell him was... tonight was it after a nasty argument which Mike started about May spending too much time on the phone or on the computer, and that she needed to do more to make him happy. She explodes on Mike and kicks him out... afterall, she pays all the bills, buys all the food and commodities and works 60 hours and THEN comes home to cook Mikes dinner. He never even has the desency to ask how her day was, he pays lip service to it after whining about his job for 2 hours while he eats the dinner she bought and cooked for him.
Bob and May talked about it for a few hours on the phone, May said that whe she told Mike she needed time to think and that he should move back with his parents he was completely emotionless and said "ok, no problem take all the time you need" she was very angry, "Im not even worth a fight? not worth a single point of contention?"
So Mike is going on Tuesday, she just wants him to get out so she can change the locks and work on how to tell him its completely over.
At this point May and Bob are in love.
Mike is going away.
And the logistical planning of how to get together is underway...
There is much more to the story then what I ave written, but i am trying to summarize here.
Basically looking for comments and ideas and insight.
There was a really awesome connectivity that kept them coming back to one and other, and even though they never had sex or anything like that they always knew that they were very interested in one and other, even if it was just a "what if" thing because they loved the times they had together. They were friends for years, ad because of differing times and schedules and careers and schools they always ended up far away so MUCH of this went through phone calls and chat cameras etc in the dorm room.
Essentially they grew up away form one and other but together.
Recently Bob got out of a very long relationship, May found out and they got to talking about it and whatnot, there was still a lot there. May on the other hand moved to another country and married some guy.
May has been married for 3 years... Bob is single.
Once again Bob and May enter into each others lives from afar, May tells Bob that she is extremely unhappy in her marriage because Mike (the husband) is a complete self absorbed person who is ambition-less, emotionally vacant, and extremely possessive. May says she isn't allowed to have any friends, Mike runs them all off, but he also ignores her all night when they're home.
Mike aside for a bit.
May and Bob really start talking a lot, more so then EVER before, not just flirting and pleasantries but deep deep conversations about anything you can imagine. And its good. SO good.
May feels happy, she confides that she has always loved Bob and always wondered what if, and why Bob didn't make a move.
Bob admits that for years he was extremely insecure about himself and other things so he found it too hard to open up and speak from a place of truth and openness. But that recent revelations had opened his eyes to a lot of things, and that he also had major feelings for May.
May and Bob fall in love.
Mike is completely unaware, he doesn't care enough to figure out why May is suddenly happy when shes always miserable. May begins to distance herself from Mike and gravitate towards Bob since Bob is finally "emotionally stable and open" enough to have a real meaningful relationship with her.
May tells Bob that she is going to divorce Mike, not for Bob, she refuses to let it be about that and much to Bobs relief neither does he... but she says "you're just a catalyst for me to break free from this misery" She says she always wanted Bob and that they should meet up asap. And that she feels horrible about the situation, not that she is talking to Bob, that she is married to Mike, and she says she cant even let Mike kiss her goodnight without feeling terrible, she feels like she is cheating... but she says she feels like shes cheating on Bob, not Mike.
Tonight May told Mike that she needed time to think and be separate so she can clear her head.
This came on after weeks of deciding when the right time to tell him was... tonight was it after a nasty argument which Mike started about May spending too much time on the phone or on the computer, and that she needed to do more to make him happy. She explodes on Mike and kicks him out... afterall, she pays all the bills, buys all the food and commodities and works 60 hours and THEN comes home to cook Mikes dinner. He never even has the desency to ask how her day was, he pays lip service to it after whining about his job for 2 hours while he eats the dinner she bought and cooked for him.
Bob and May talked about it for a few hours on the phone, May said that whe she told Mike she needed time to think and that he should move back with his parents he was completely emotionless and said "ok, no problem take all the time you need" she was very angry, "Im not even worth a fight? not worth a single point of contention?"
So Mike is going on Tuesday, she just wants him to get out so she can change the locks and work on how to tell him its completely over.
At this point May and Bob are in love.
Mike is going away.
And the logistical planning of how to get together is underway...
There is much more to the story then what I ave written, but i am trying to summarize here.
Basically looking for comments and ideas and insight.
