I can see how you'd think that, but it doesn't mean I am unwilling to change. The "self love" was about my ability to understand most situations and being on both sides of the fence on a lot of things, being "contradictory". That is the part I see as a strength, because it enables me to be so very understanding. So very able to emapthize and sympathize and to connect. Edit: I so wish there was a better way to explain this... ugh I feel I'm not explaining it in the best light..April, you are loved, but what I say next is a bit challenging:
You're viewing it as a strength, but that also means you're unwilling to change. If you're getting all this feedback that it's a bit much for most people, then at what point does that 'self-love' simply become antisocial?
However, the other part, the part which you pointed out in the quote I am now replying to, me overwhelming people.. now THAT is what I am getting the feedback about, and that... I totally do not see as a positive... you're very right, I need to work on it, and it screams desperation and insecurity, which I am trying hard to overcome. I hope you know that I have made leaps and bounds!! I hear what people say, even if they do not say it, and I try my best to listen. Which again is why I'm not all the time in people's inboxes asking why they haven't responded to me and every time I find myself wondering... I just redirect my thoughts to a more mature and healthier way of thinking, like "they are just busy, and I am not their first priority, in fact its presumptuous to even think that they would reply to me when I want them to anyways. I hope this clarified what I meant and the difference between the two aspects of me that we are referring to.
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