- MBTI
- INFJ
So, I've been trying online dating without a whole lot of success. A while back I met someone who actually shared a big interest with me, and then suddenly I stopped hearing from her without any indication as to why. By then meeting tons of people and not connecting with the vast majority of them, only to have most of the ones I was vaguely interested in disappear was starting to add up and take a toll on my self-esteem; even though I know it had nothing to do with me I was starting to get down on myself for none of it working out.
Basically, I decided it wasn't worth throwing all that energy into a pit never to be seen or heard from again while simultaneously making my self esteem suffer, which is really the last thing I need. I decided to call it quits on the online dating thing, which is a decision I've been doubting too.
Anyway. The one girl I actually share a major interest with popped up again on email today, after 10 days. She simply responded to my last one and didn't really explain or anything. Makes me paranoid that she's just mailing with me as some kind of backup she talks to when she isn't pursuing someone she's actually into. On the other hand that's a hell of a lot of assumptions, so maybe I should just stop whining and respond.
It mostly comes down to, should I respond at all? Also I'm still wondering if giving up the online dating thing is a good thing for me because when I'm not doing anything about why I feel unhappy I just feel helpless and frustrated.
Thoughts?
Basically, I decided it wasn't worth throwing all that energy into a pit never to be seen or heard from again while simultaneously making my self esteem suffer, which is really the last thing I need. I decided to call it quits on the online dating thing, which is a decision I've been doubting too.
Anyway. The one girl I actually share a major interest with popped up again on email today, after 10 days. She simply responded to my last one and didn't really explain or anything. Makes me paranoid that she's just mailing with me as some kind of backup she talks to when she isn't pursuing someone she's actually into. On the other hand that's a hell of a lot of assumptions, so maybe I should just stop whining and respond.
It mostly comes down to, should I respond at all? Also I'm still wondering if giving up the online dating thing is a good thing for me because when I'm not doing anything about why I feel unhappy I just feel helpless and frustrated.
Thoughts?