I am a bit confused about this situation, so I wanted some different insights and opinions.
I recently broke up with my ESTP boyfriend of six months. I suggested it and he agreed, so it was fairly mutual. We both looked at it from a logical standpoint; we fight all the time, we have so much trouble with communication that it's like we speak different languages, and recently that frustrated him so much that he broke a thick glass pot top over a pot of food and this prompted me to make a decision. It was a very hot day (about 100) with an upstairs apartment and he hasn't been getting enough sleep but still I don't abide violence. He also is very needy and since he does not have good friends (his old friends do drugs and he has been clean for years now) nor family he can talk to I had to play the part of all these and it wore me out very quickly.
The thing is we both still love each other, so our hearts don't want to break up. Much of the time he is very sweet and romantic. In other ways we work; he's very good at lifting my spirits, we make a good team when we can work together. We have the same faith and goals (me a teacher and he a principal) and he knows how to make me feel appreciated and loved.
So the question is do we stay apart or do we take a break and then come back together. I need opinions. Obviously if the answer the the latter then we have to figure out how to fix the existing problems. Agh.
I recently broke up with my ESTP boyfriend of six months. I suggested it and he agreed, so it was fairly mutual. We both looked at it from a logical standpoint; we fight all the time, we have so much trouble with communication that it's like we speak different languages, and recently that frustrated him so much that he broke a thick glass pot top over a pot of food and this prompted me to make a decision. It was a very hot day (about 100) with an upstairs apartment and he hasn't been getting enough sleep but still I don't abide violence. He also is very needy and since he does not have good friends (his old friends do drugs and he has been clean for years now) nor family he can talk to I had to play the part of all these and it wore me out very quickly.
The thing is we both still love each other, so our hearts don't want to break up. Much of the time he is very sweet and romantic. In other ways we work; he's very good at lifting my spirits, we make a good team when we can work together. We have the same faith and goals (me a teacher and he a principal) and he knows how to make me feel appreciated and loved.
So the question is do we stay apart or do we take a break and then come back together. I need opinions. Obviously if the answer the the latter then we have to figure out how to fix the existing problems. Agh.