How To Manifest Anything! -Very Powerful Tool! (Law Of Attraction)
A very useful guide, actually.
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How To Manifest Anything! -Very Powerful Tool! (Law Of Attraction)
A very useful guide, actually.
I agree, and the MT are subject to interpertation.
I've carefully read the MT website. I find it very insightful in it's teachings. Personally, I think MT is just another 'avenue' or tool in understanding the big picture. Unfortunately, I do see some missing pieces there too. I believe we as humans are resigned to the infernal quest for 'the missing link' when it comes to defining our beliefs and ultimately comes down to choice. The 'what & why' that resonates like a frequency within ourselves.
I long for the day when global acceptance of those choices lays across the bridge of humanity and the common goal of love and peace is reached. Imagine what a world that would be.
The Michael Teachings are a bit complicated.
(1) The MT is a bunch of channelings starting in the 1970s to the present. They are complicated to read, it is basically Te language that requires some deciphering. Any interpretation is an individual enterprise.
(2) Two books were written in 1979 and 1986 by Chelsea Quinn Yarbro. There is more individual material that was published on the Internet in the 90's and noughties. This fragmentation means that you have to access all material to get the full picture.
(3) The MT claims to be at most 80 percent accurate. It is the experience of a Soul Group named Michael, whose members have lived many incarnations on Earth. Like all humans, they commit mistakes that they should to learn from. I reckon that they are late cycle Old Souls on average and that reflects their experience. Some details are wrong and other things are unknown. Astrology can make up for the unknown bits. But astrology is not a complete science either. The advantage of the MT is the scope. It covers the galaxy while astrology only covers planet Earth.
(4) The Roles (Server, Artisan, Warrior, Scholar, Sage, Priest and King) and the Soul Age (Infant, Baby, Young, Mature and Old) that the MT describes are two most obvious pieces of a puzzle that make up who you are. The Role is permanent throughout a Grand Cycle (you go up and down across dimensions many times, and each such cycle is a Grand Cycle).
The "obvious" (discernible) details are the Overleaves, the Body Type, the Essence Twin, the Task Companion and the Cast, which shape your subpersonality and of which there are many flavors. If the Overleaves are selected from many Roles, then you are balanced amongst many roles. The Overleaves and Body Type change with each incarnation and may or may not repeat. The other details are permanent during a Grand Cycle.
Other details are Cadre, Entity, Male/Female energy, Frequency, Needs, Side, Karmic Sequence, Quadrant, Cadence, Greater Cadence.
This list is complete or nearly complete.
(5) The MT is not a faux religion in my view, Skare.
Didn’t claim it or anything is faux...maybe the Mormons are right for all I know...it would just be shitty if that were true.
I am sure that there is much good to learn from the MT.
You will never satiate my skepticism.
And neither will I.
It is just fun to see your reaction to my exaggerated claims. :happydanceyay:
You INTPs.
They drive me nuts! Hahahahahaha....
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So I wonder if
(1) The aura of INXJs are "soft and diffuse". This means that they are larger than those of other personality types. Do you feel that auras of INXJs are larger?
(2) Because INFJs want to help other people, they risk creating cords when they meet. Energy vampires take advantage of this. Energy vampires target empaths in particular more than other people (according to articles that discuss spirituality). Are INFJ empaths more sensitive, because of their aura, to creating cords with energy vampires than empaths of other roles?[/QUOTE]
Since I don't "see" auras I cannot speak to others experiences with theirs. I can only speak about my own experiences with the energy field emanating through my heart and surround this body.
I would agree empaths - INFJs - have open expanded energy fields(aura).
I also agree there are those persons who naturally gravitate towards INFJs due to their ability to help another deal with their emotions.
I do not feel familiar with the energy vampire idea. Or I do not hold with that idea.
Ultimately each of us is responsible for where we "put" our energy. That can be on another....or our Self. Yes?
The key would be in the empaths ability to know themselves and to recognize where their energy is in any given moment. As their awareness increases the Empath can choose where they direct their focus and their energy and the energy from the Universe.
An Empath can give away their energy....but must get nurturing to replenish themselves. The Key to this is to learn how to Receive and develop a keen awareness of that action.
Orrrr.... an Adept Empath can empower themselves in their core with their own Love Light and when in the presence of others needing that love - perhaps they could be called energy vampires - the Empath entrains the other person bringing stability and love to the shared field - in that moment.
You see when two human Beings stand close enough together their energy fields overlap and can blend if both are open....trusting.
Learning how to clear the human Being energy field of the heavy dense painful hurtful experiences is the first priority of an Empath. This includes both their own stuff...as well as others they have "picked up" along their journey in life.
So let's talk about the idea of Cords.
A few years ago I used the idea of Cords to help me process many trauma painful experiences I had throughout my life with great success....and I highly recommend anyone to use this idea of cord cutting ceremonies for their benefit. Besides...it's fun to wield a sword and cut off people who were seen as "sucking the life" out of you. Hah!
But what about quantum Entanglement? When we get right down to it we are ALL connected by energy cords to one another by quantum entanglement from the "beginning". Yes? So then it becomes a question of where and how often do we place our focus...which further strengthens the energetic connection (cord) to the other Being(s).
Why is there an energy vampire in our life in the first place?
I would say they are there for a reason to be discovered by the individual contemplating this question. They are there for the lesson.
Question the beliefs surrounding this whole idea of energy vampires, cords, and auras.
So I wonder if
(1) The aura of INXJs are "soft and diffuse". This means that they are larger than those of other personality types. Do you feel that auras of INXJs are larger?
(2) Because INFJs want to help other people, they risk creating cords when they meet. Energy vampires take advantage of this. Energy vampires target empaths in particular more than other people (according to articles that discuss spirituality). Are INFJ empaths more sensitive, because of their aura, to creating cords with energy vampires than empaths of other roles?[/QUOTE]
Since I don't "see" auras I cannot speak to others experiences with theirs. I can only speak about my own experiences with the energy field emanating through my heart and surround this body.
I would agree empaths - INFJs - have open expanded energy fields(aura).
I also agree there are those persons who naturally gravitate towards INFJs due to their ability to help another deal with their emotions.
I do not feel familiar with the energy vampire idea. Or I do not hold with that idea.
Ultimately each of us is responsible for where we "put" our energy. That can be on another....or our Self. Yes?
The key would be in the empaths ability to know themselves and to recognize where their energy is in any given moment. As their awareness increases the Empath can choose where they direct their focus and their energy and the energy from the Universe.
An Empath can give away their energy....but must get nurturing to replenish themselves. The Key to this is to learn how to Receive and develop a keen awareness of that action.
Orrrr.... an Adept Empath can empower themselves in their core with their own Love Light and when in the presence of others needing that love - perhaps they could be called energy vampires - the Empath entrains the other person bringing stability and love to the shared field - in that moment.
You see when two human Beings stand close enough together their energy fields overlap and can blend if both are open....trusting.
Learning how to clear the human Being energy field of the heavy dense painful hurtful experiences is the first priority of an Empath. This includes both their own stuff...as well as others they have "picked up" along their journey in life.
So let's talk about the idea of Cords.
A few years ago I used the idea of Cords to help me process many trauma painful experiences I had throughout my life with great success....and I highly recommend anyone to use this idea of cord cutting ceremonies for their benefit. Besides...it's fun to wield a sword and cut off people who were seen as "sucking the life" out of you.
Hah!But what about quantum Entanglement? When we get right down to it we are ALL connected by energy cords to one another by quantum entanglement from the "beginning". Yes? So then it becomes a question of where and how often do we place our focus...which further strengthens the energetic connection (cord) to the other Being(s).
Why is there an energy vampire in our life in the first place?
I would say they are there for a reason to be discovered by the individual contemplating this question. They are there for the lesson.
Question the beliefs surrounding this whole idea of energy vampires, cords, and auras.
You INTPs.
The fifth claim was a honey trap by my intention. Claims 1-4 are truthful as far as I know. But you never know: my higher self might be intentionally playing a trick on me; first sending me false information (my HS saying "I want this experience."), then letting me clean up the s--t and apologize to you.
Often I feel nervous when writing a joke:
When a joke fails:
When a joke succeeds, letting the other person respond to a joke, i.e. joking about me:
That was a lengthy post. Very interesting to read. You are right that there is much in our lives that we can control if we have the will power and figure out how to change it.
Regarding auras, David Icke claims that we once upon a time we had much greater psychic capabilities. At some point, we were genetically manipulated to use only five senses and see a smaller bandwidth of the electromagnetic spectrum. There is so much that we cannot do and cannot see. Life is dull and boring. I often wonder what it is that we are not perceiving in everyday life.
Monty Python - The Dull Life of a City Stockbroker (dutch subs)
Well one thing would be the ability to see others auras....right?
Manipulating matter with sound we make is another ability we lost when we were cutoff from the majority of our abilities we used to have.
Healing of all kinds. Body cell regeneration. Telling whether another Being is lying to us or not.
But the biggest loss of all was the one where we were cut off from Source - the Oneness - the knowing we are all connected.
Do you remember the Star Trek movie Nexus? In it Captain Picard finds Captain Kirk living out a "false" life after he died. It took James a while to figure it out...and it was jumping his horse over a wide ravine that made him realize it. The significance was the fact he noticed he felt no fear in the jumping.
Well... before we were cut off from Source deep down we knew we were safe and secure because no matter if we died (jumping a wide ravine and not making it)...we knew it was only the body that died....not us...and we gleefully signed up for another Life(reincarnation). After a while...this became boring.
Enter the idea of being completely cutoff from Source and NOT knowing there was life after death...this generated a deep Fear within us...
...and the rest...as they say.... is History. We are now a species with amnesia cut off from our higher wisdom and deeply deeply immersed in Fear.
The reason why we are bored in THIS lifetime is because we are aware and connected (or in the process of connecting) with Source - our Higher Self - our multidimensional selves - and we know without doubt we live beyond these human bodies. We are remembering our abilities we had before we were cutoff from Source. I know I am...and I know many others who are going through this remembering process as well.....just as you are.
So yeh...David Icke is correct in that we were modified down to minimum awareness.
With the new Earth grids in place we now have the capability to connect more of our energy power centers to the grid and increase our awareness.
Here's to powering up!
Well one thing would be the ability to see others auras....right?
Manipulating matter with sound we make is another ability we lost when we were cutoff from the majority of our abilities we used to have.
Healing of all kinds. Body cell regeneration. Telling whether another Being is lying to us or not.
But the biggest loss of all was the one where we were cut off from Source - the Oneness - the knowing we are all connected.
Do you remember the Star Trek movie Nexus? In it Captain Picard finds Captain Kirk living out a "false" life after he died. It took James a while to figure it out...and it was jumping his horse over a wide ravine that made him realize it. The significance was the fact he noticed he felt no fear in the jumping.
Well... before we were cut off from Source deep down we knew we were safe and secure because no matter if we died (jumping a wide ravine and not making it)...we knew it was only the body that died....not us...and we gleefully signed up for another Life(reincarnation). After a while...this became boring.
Enter the idea of being completely cutoff from Source and NOT knowing there was life after death...this generated a deep Fear within us...
...and the rest...as they say.... is History. We are now a species with amnesia cut off from our higher wisdom and deeply deeply immersed in Fear.
The reason why we are bored in THIS lifetime is because we are aware and connected (or in the process of connecting) with Source - our Higher Self - our multidimensional selves - and we know without doubt we live beyond these human bodies. We are remembering our abilities we had before we were cutoff from Source. I know I am...and I know many others who are going through this remembering process as well.....just as you are.
So yeh...David Icke is correct in that we were modified down to minimum awareness.
With the new Earth grids in place we now have the capability to connect more of our energy power centers to the grid and increase our awareness.
Here's to powering up!
Thanks for sharing that with me.
I have read various stories about the history of our being cut off from Source. Some say that the initial cut-off was an experiment. Others say that we were manipulated into accepting it.
Whatever happened initially, we were subsequently tricked into giving up more and more of our free will. Negative ET races were taking advantage of us. It has been heck out of difficult to reverse this trend. Now we know that the Earth experiment is a success and it feels just great.
The Ars Notoria, an ancient book that teaches amazing mental abilities
Over the centuries many books have been written claiming that loyal readers and followers of the text will be bestowed with magical powers.
In some cases these books are intended to invoke demons or angels.
In other cases they promise to allow the reader enhanced skills or good luck.
Over the centuries many books have been written claiming that loyal readers and followers of the text will be bestowed with magical powers.
In some cases these books are intended to invoke demons or angels.
In other cases they promise to allow the reader enhanced skills or good luck.
While the concepts of magic and demonology remained controversial through history, many such books were translated and compiled over time, extending their reach throughout several centuries.
One of these books is the Ars Notoria.
The Ars Notoria is one of five books within a grimoire called the Lesser Keys of Solomon , or Clavicula Salomonis Regis.
A grimoire is a textbook of occult knowledge which is meant to grant the reader the ability to cast spells, create talismans, invoke spirits, invoke demons, and perform divination.
The Lesser Keys of Solomon is an anonymous grimoire that was compiled from other works in the 17th century, and focuses on demonology.
The five books contained within the Lesser Keys of Solomon are the Ars Goetia , the Ars Theurgia-Goetia , the Ars Paulina , the Ars Almadel , and the Ars Notoria .
The Ars Notoria is the oldest portion of the Lesser of the Keys grimoire.
It, in particular, was not a book of spells or potions, but a book of prayers and orations that are said to strengthen and focus one’s mental powers, by beseeching god for intellectual gifts.
Among these intellectual gifts is the concept of a “perfect memory.”
Those who practice liberal arts, such as arithmetic, geometry, and philosophy, are promised a mastery of their subject if they devote themselves to the Ars Notoria.
Within, it describes a daily process of visualization, contemplation, and orations, which are intended to enhance the practitioner’s focus and memory.
Also, the original texts were written in mash up of ancient Hebrew, Greek, and Latin.
King Solomon himself used the original content of Ars Notoria to become as wise, compassionate and clever as he was made to be famous.
“…The Notory Art revealed by the Most High Creator to Solomon. In the Name of the Holy and undivided Trinity, beginneth this most Holy Art of Knowledge, revealed to Solomon, which the Most High Creator by his Holy Angels ministered to Solomon upon the Alter of the Temple; that thereby in short time he knew all Arts and Sciences, both Liberal and Mechanick, with all the Faculties and Properties thereof: He has suddenly infused into him, and also was filled with all wisdom, to utter the Sacred Mysteries of most Holy words…” –Ars Notoria
Another famous user of the Ars Notoria was John of Morigny, a fourteenth century monk When he tried to achieve academic mastery, he bacema afflisted with demonid visions.
He went on to create his own grimoire, Libor Visonum.
He believed that the Ars Notoria worked but came at too high a price.
There is a communication trick inside that modern readers will find fascinating.
Labeled a ‘magnetick experiment’, details how to use a lodestone and two compass needles to communicate great distances.
If the two needles are rubbed against the same lodestone (a lodestone is a natural magnet), the needles will be ‘entangled’.
In this fashion, if one needle moves the other does as well.
By placing the needles in the center of a circle of letters and pictures, two individuals across great distances, could talk to each other by spelling out words.
The book has many clever ideas and notions that were ahead of its time.
It was also attached to prominent occult and political names.
All this combined with the fact we discussed earlier, that many people can’t read, lead people to believe it had magical properties.
The expansion of perspective and attainment of knowledge made others believe that the book itself was magical.
If we were able to get an unabridged and original copy of the book, then my mind could be easily changed.
If the book did have inherently dangerous information, authorities of various types would have worked to contain and limit the public’s access to this information.
“And know this; that if thou hast not the books in thy hands, or the faculty of looking into them is not given to thee; the effect of this work will not be the lesse therefore: but the Orations are twice then to be pronounced, where they were to be but once: And as to the knowledge of a vision, and the other virtues which these Holy Orations have; thou maist prove and try them, when and how thou wilt.” –Ars Notoria
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There are many ways you can drive a dog nuts — and you probably aren’t even aware of them. So if you want to be your dog’s best friend, find out how you can fix your annoying habits.
Dogs try to be our best friends, but boy do we ever make it difficult sometimes. Here are some of the things we do that might make dogs question whether they want to remain best buds or cut ties completely
1. Using words more than body language
We’re a vocal species. We love to chatter away, even at our pets, who can’t understand the vast majority of what we’re saying. Dogs might be able to deduce what a few key words mean — walk, treat, toy, off — and maybe even learn hundreds of words as some border collies have done. But they can’t understand human language. What they rely on to figure out what we mean is our body language. Dogs have evolved to be expert readers of the human body and can figure out what you’re thinking and feeling before you even realize you’re thinking and feeling it. But we can easily send mixed signals if we are only paying attention to what our mouths are saying and not what our bodies are saying. If you go to any beginning dog training class, you’ll see plenty of people saying one thing, doing another, and a confused dog trying to figure out what in the world is wanted of them. For instance, telling a dog to “stay” while leaning forward toward the dog and holding out a hand like a traffic cop is, in body language, actually inviting the dog to come toward you. But when the dog does, she gets reprimanded for breaking her stay command. It’s all so confusing!
A great experiment (and something that will probably have your dog sighing with relief) is to try to spend a whole day not saying a word to your dog, but communicating only with your body. You’ll realize just how much you “talk” with your body without realizing it, how to use your movements and body position to get the response you need from your dog during training, and how involved a conversation can be without emitting a single sound.
2. Hugging your dog
While you might love wrapping your arms around a furry canine friend, most dogs hate hugs. We as primates think hugs are awesome and express support, love, joy and other emotions through hugs. It’s totally normal to us to wrap our arms around something and squeeze, and it only means good things. But dogs did not evolve this way. Canids don’t have arms and they don’t hug. Rather than camaraderie, if a dog places a foreleg or paw on the back of another dog, this is considered an act of dominance. No matter your intentions with hugging, a dog is hardwired to view the act of hugging as you exerting your dominance. Many dogs will tolerate it with grace — the smiling face of the family golden retriever with a child’s arms wrapped around it comes to mind. But some dogs will feel threatened, fearful, or just flat out loathe the feeling — and in fact, a child grabbing a dog for a hug is why many dog bites occur. Also, the same dog that enjoys one person’s hug might react entirely differently with another family member who tries the same thing. You’d be hard-pressed to find a dog that actually enjoys or seeks out hugs.
This dog is barely tolerating a hug from the little girl. Everything about the tense mouth, eyes and ears say that this is not something the dog is enjoying, and this is a potential safety issue for the little girl. (Photo
wight Smith/Shutterstock)If you’re wondering if your dog hates your hugs, just pay attention to her body language when you go in for a cuddle. Does she tense up? Lean her head away from you? Avoid even a hint of eye contact? Lick her lips? Keep her mouth closed? Pull her ears back against her head? All of these are signs that a dog is uncomfortable. Yes, even the dog licking her lips while someone snuggles her is not showing that she is overcome with love, it is showing submissive, even nervous behavior. So next time you want to go in for a hug, pay very close attention to whether or not the dog is okay with it. After all, you’re putting your face right next to a set of sharp teeth.
3. Petting a dog’s face or patting her head
Do you like to be patted on the head? My guess is no. Having someone reach out and tap us on the head, no matter how lovingly, is not something most of us enjoy. It’s annoying at best and painful at worst. And we really don’t want the hands of strangers reaching toward our face. If someone were to reach their hand toward your face, I’m guessing your reaction would be to pull your head back and lean away, and get a little tense about the invasion of personal space. Yet most humans think that dogs like being patted on the head. The reality is that while many dogs will put up with this if it’s someone they know and trust, most dogs don’t enjoy it. You may notice that even the loving family dog might lean away slightly when you reach for her face to pet her. She’ll let you because you’re the boss, but she doesn’t like it. It’s a personal space issue for dogs just as much as it is for us. This is why responsible parents teach their children to gently pet a dog’s back or rear, but don’t pat, and definitely don’t go for the dog’s face. If you really want to reward your dog for being awesome, don’t bang on their head, but give them a rub on their rear end right by the tail. They’ll thank you for it!
4. Walking up to a strange dog while looking her in the eye
We all know how powerful eye contact is. While we view steady eye contact as important, as a sign of trustworthiness or focus, we have to also be aware that eye contact can feel unnerving, uncomfortable and domineering. It’s creepy when a stranger looks us in the eye without breaking contact, especially as they’re approaching. It’s clear their attention is zeroed in, but what is their intention? We have to read the rest of their face for the cues. Eye contact is part of establishing dominance for many species, and in humans, we can use the tiniest of details about the rest of the face — the softness or hardness of the muscles around the eyes and mouth — to determine if the stare is friendly or not. And even then, it’s still creepy to have a stranger stare at us! It feels the same way for dogs. When you look a strange dog right in the eye, unblinking, you might be smiling and trying to warm up to them but the dog is probably reading it as an act of dominance or even aggression. They might display a submissive response — looking away, doing a little wiggle for pets, rolling over onto their backs — or they might start backing up and barking. Either way, for most dogs, a stranger looking it right in the eye while approaching is not a comfortable situation.
If you want to say hello to a new dog in a way that is comfortable for both of you, approach with your body angled slightly (not with your shoulders squared toward the dog), your eyes slightly averted, and speak quietly with a gentle voice. All these body language cues of friendship will help a dog understand you mean no harm. The dog might still want nothing to do with you, but at least you didn’t approach in a scary way that could cause a defensive or aggressive reaction.
5. Not providing structure and rules
Dogs want, need, and love having rules. You might think having strict rules makes life boring or unhappy for your dog. But dogs really want to know what’s what according to their leader. And really, it’s not so hard to relate as humans. Children thrive when they have a consistent set of rules to follow, and they do less well in environments that provide them a free-for-all. Think about polite, well-balanced kids you know, and the spoiled kids who lack social skills or throw temper tantrums when they don’t get what they want. Which set of kids are the ones with consistently enforced rules and boundaries? And which set tends to be most consistently happy? With dogs, it’s pretty much the same thing. Rules make life a lot more predictable, a lot less confusing and a lot less stressful.
And speaking of confusing, dogs don’t understand exceptions to rules. They don’t understand that they’re allowed to jump on you when you have leisure clothes on but not when you have work clothes on. They don’t understand that they’re allowed on the couch after a bath but not after coming in from a romp in the mud. Additionally, saying “No” for breaking a rule but not actually doing something to help the dog stop the behavior and learn the rule doesn’t count as enforcement. Dogs thrive when they know where the boundaries are, and when you spend time enforcing consistent boundaries with positive rewards, you also are building up their trust in you as a leader. You’re setting up conditions for a very happy dog!
6. Forcing your dog to interact with dogs or people she clearly doesn’t like
Just like so many other social species, dogs have their favorite friends and their enemies. It is easy to see what other dogs — and people, for that matter — that a dog wants to hang out with and those with whom she’d rather not associate. Yet, there are a lot of dog owners who go into denial about this or simply fail to read the cues their dog is giving them. It is common for overly enthusiastic owners to push their dog (sometimes literally) into social situations at dog parks when their dog would rather just go home. Or they allow strangers to pet their dog even when she is showing clear signs of wanting to be left alone.
It is important to note that there is a difference between positive encouragement with shy, fearful, or reactive dogs. Taking small steps to encourage them out of their comfort zone and giving them rewards for any amount of calm, happy social behavior is important to helping them live a balanced life. But knowing the difference between gentle, rewards-based boundary pushing and forcing an interaction is vital to your dog’s safety and sanity. When dogs are pushed too far in social situations, they’re more likely to lash out with a bite or a fight. They’ve given cue after cue — ignoring, avoiding, maybe even growling — and finally they’ve had enough and give the clearest message of all with their teeth. What is possibly even worse, is that their trust in you as a protective leader is eroded, and they have an even more negative association with a park, a certain dog or person, or a general social setting. So do your dog a favor: read the body language she gives you when she doesn’t want to be around certain other individuals and don’t force it.
7. Going for walks without opportunity to explore and smell
There are walks, and there are walks. It’s definitely important to have a dog that knows how to walk obediently on a leash. However, it’s also important to allow a dog to have some time to explore her surroundings while walking obediently on a leash. Dogs see with their noses, and they place as much importance on their sense of smell as we humans place on our sense of vision for interpreting the world around us. It’s probably safe to say that dogs appreciate the smell of a tree trunk the way we appreciate a beautiful sunset. Dogs loathe not being able to take in their world for at least a few minutes a day, and too often we humans are focused on going on walks for the sole purpose of exercise or potty breaks. We trudge along the same old route, often without any variety or sense of leisure, and in too much of a hurry to get back home again.
The sense of smell is how a dog takes in the world, and sometimes they’re simply desperate for a chance to take a good sniff. (Photo:Csehak Szabolcs /Shutterstock)
Do your dog a favor and dedicate one of your daily walks to having a “smell walk” — going slow and letting your dog take in the world with her nose. Go somewhere entirely new, explore a different neighborhood or trail, let your dog sniff at a spot until she gets her fill, even if it’s for minutes at a time before moving forward. For helping your dog know the difference between a walk where she should be obedient and stay beside you, and a walk where she is free to explore, you can have a special backpack or harness that you use only for smell walks. Just make sure it is something very different from your usual collar and leash set-up so the different purpose for the walk is obvious to your dog. These walks are a wonderful opportunity for your dog to get some of the mental and sensory stimulation that keeps life interesting for her.
8. Keeping a tight leash, literally
Just as dogs are amazing at reading our body language, they’re amazing at reading our tension levels even through the leash. By keeping a tight leash on a dog, you’re raising the level of stress, frustration, and excitement for your dog, and conversely, for you. I know what you might be thinking: “I don’t want to hold a tight leash, but I have to. My dog is the one pulling, not me!” But this is why it is so important to teach a dog how to walk on a slack leash.
An amazing amount of energy is transferred between you and your dog through that little strip of canvas or leather. By keeping a loose leash, you’re letting your dog know that everything is fine and dandy, that there’s no reason to be worried or tense. With a slack leash you’re saying to your dog that you are calm and have everything under control so your dog is free to be calm as well. On the other hand, by keeping a tight leash you’re sending a message to your dog that you’re tense, nervous, on alert, ready to fight or fly, and your dog responds in kind. Just as you don’t like your dog pulling you around, it doesn’t feel good to your dog to constantly be pulled and thus cued to be on alert. They’re also well-aware that they can’t get away from you even if they think they need to. A dog that walks on a tight leash is more apt to bark or be reactive in even the most mild of social situations. But a dog that can walk on a slack leash is more likely to be calm. This is a difficult thing to master, and something the majority of dog owners can commiserate about, but it is so important to having pleasant walks with a relaxed dog.
9. Being tense
Tension on the leash isn’t the only way a dog can pick up how you’re feeling. You can tell when a person you’re around is feeling tense, even if you don’t realize it. Dogs have the same ability. The more stressed and wound-up you are, the more stressed and wound-up your dog is. And dogs, just like us, don’t like that feeling. You might roll your eyes, but the next time your dog is acting frustrated and tense, check in with yourself — have you been feeling that way for the last few minutes, for the last few hours, or the last few days? Your dog might just be acting as your mirror. If you need a reason to meditate, helping your dog calm down is a great one.
10. Being boring
You know that feeling of being stuck hanging around someone who is totally boring? Think back: remember having to be with your parents while they ran grown-up errands? None of which revolved around a toy store or park, of course. Remember that feeling of barely being able to contain yourself, of wanting to squirm and groan and complain. You couldn’t take part in the adult conversation, which was boring anyway, and you were told to sit still and hush. But oh boy did you ever want to just moooove! Just run around the block or something to break the monotony. That’s how your dog feels when you’re busy being that boring grown-up. Dogs abhor it when we’re boring. And it’s hard not to be! We get home from work and we want to unwind, to get a few chores done, to make dinner and sack out on the couch and relax. But that’s about the most annoying thing we could do to our dogs who have been waiting around all day for us to finally play with them.
If your dog is making trouble — getting into boxes or closets, eating shoes or chewing on table legs — she’s basically showing you just how incredibly bored she is. Luckily, there is a quick and easy solution to this: training games. Teaching your dog a new trick, working on old tricks, playing a game of “find it” with a favorite toy, or going out and using a walk as a chance to work on urban agility, are all ways to stimulate both your dog’s mind and body. An hour of training is worth a couple hours playing a repetitive game of fetch in terms of wearing a dog out. While of course exercise and walks are important, adding in some brain work will make your dog happy-tired. Even just 15-30 minutes of trick training a day will make a big difference.
11. Teasing
This should be obvious, and we won’t spend too much time on it. But it’s worth pointing out because too many people still think it’s funny. Don’t bark at a dog as you pass it on the street. Don’t wave or talk to a dog that is barking at you from behind a window or door. Don’t pull on a dog’s tail. The list can go on and on, but in short, don’t do something you know makes a dog mad just because you think it’s funny. It’s not funny to the dog and can lead to some serious behavioral problems — and, perhaps deservedly, you getting to sport some new dog-shaped teeth marks.
Further Reading
If you’d like to learn more about how to be a better friend to your dog, try these great book recommendations. For example, in “The Other End of the Leash: Why We Do What We Do Around Dogs” professional behaviorist and trainer Patricia B. McConnell goes into excellent detail about the species differences between primates and canids and why dogs don’t appreciate our hugs, as well as many other great ways of understanding a dog’s perspective about the world. Meanwhile, in “Inside of a Dog: What Dogs See, Smell, and Know” by Alexandra Horowitz, you’ll get a chance to see the world through a dog’s eyes and learn so much about body language, the importance of scent, and other things that will help you know more about what your dog wants out of life. And for understanding more about how clicker training and training games can help you and your dog get along better, try “Reaching the Animal Mind: Clicker Training and What It Teaches Us About All Animals” by Karen Pryor. Follow the link for these and more great reads.
http://www.bodymindsoulspirit.com/11-things-humans-do-that-dogs-hate/
There is an imbalance. We need more woof-woof and less meow-meow in this thread.
There are many ways you can drive a dog nuts — and you probably aren’t even aware of them. So if you want to be your dog’s best friend, find out how you can fix your annoying habits.
Dogs try to be our best friends, but boy do we ever make it difficult sometimes. Here are some of the things we do that might make dogs question whether they want to remain best buds or cut ties completely
1. Using words more than body language
We’re a vocal species. We love to chatter away, even at our pets, who can’t understand the vast majority of what we’re saying. Dogs might be able to deduce what a few key words mean — walk, treat, toy, off — and maybe even learn hundreds of words as some border collies have done. But they can’t understand human language. What they rely on to figure out what we mean is our body language. Dogs have evolved to be expert readers of the human body and can figure out what you’re thinking and feeling before you even realize you’re thinking and feeling it. But we can easily send mixed signals if we are only paying attention to what our mouths are saying and not what our bodies are saying. If you go to any beginning dog training class, you’ll see plenty of people saying one thing, doing another, and a confused dog trying to figure out what in the world is wanted of them. For instance, telling a dog to “stay” while leaning forward toward the dog and holding out a hand like a traffic cop is, in body language, actually inviting the dog to come toward you. But when the dog does, she gets reprimanded for breaking her stay command. It’s all so confusing!
A great experiment (and something that will probably have your dog sighing with relief) is to try to spend a whole day not saying a word to your dog, but communicating only with your body. You’ll realize just how much you “talk” with your body without realizing it, how to use your movements and body position to get the response you need from your dog during training, and how involved a conversation can be without emitting a single sound.
2. Hugging your dog
While you might love wrapping your arms around a furry canine friend, most dogs hate hugs. We as primates think hugs are awesome and express support, love, joy and other emotions through hugs. It’s totally normal to us to wrap our arms around something and squeeze, and it only means good things. But dogs did not evolve this way. Canids don’t have arms and they don’t hug. Rather than camaraderie, if a dog places a foreleg or paw on the back of another dog, this is considered an act of dominance. No matter your intentions with hugging, a dog is hardwired to view the act of hugging as you exerting your dominance. Many dogs will tolerate it with grace — the smiling face of the family golden retriever with a child’s arms wrapped around it comes to mind. But some dogs will feel threatened, fearful, or just flat out loathe the feeling — and in fact, a child grabbing a dog for a hug is why many dog bites occur. Also, the same dog that enjoys one person’s hug might react entirely differently with another family member who tries the same thing. You’d be hard-pressed to find a dog that actually enjoys or seeks out hugs.
This dog is barely tolerating a hug from the little girl. Everything about the tense mouth, eyes and ears say that this is not something the dog is enjoying, and this is a potential safety issue for the little girl. (Photo
If you’re wondering if your dog hates your hugs, just pay attention to her body language when you go in for a cuddle. Does she tense up? Lean her head away from you? Avoid even a hint of eye contact? Lick her lips? Keep her mouth closed? Pull her ears back against her head? All of these are signs that a dog is uncomfortable. Yes, even the dog licking her lips while someone snuggles her is not showing that she is overcome with love, it is showing submissive, even nervous behavior. So next time you want to go in for a hug, pay very close attention to whether or not the dog is okay with it. After all, you’re putting your face right next to a set of sharp teeth.
3. Petting a dog’s face or patting her head
Do you like to be patted on the head? My guess is no. Having someone reach out and tap us on the head, no matter how lovingly, is not something most of us enjoy. It’s annoying at best and painful at worst. And we really don’t want the hands of strangers reaching toward our face. If someone were to reach their hand toward your face, I’m guessing your reaction would be to pull your head back and lean away, and get a little tense about the invasion of personal space. Yet most humans think that dogs like being patted on the head. The reality is that while many dogs will put up with this if it’s someone they know and trust, most dogs don’t enjoy it. You may notice that even the loving family dog might lean away slightly when you reach for her face to pet her. She’ll let you because you’re the boss, but she doesn’t like it. It’s a personal space issue for dogs just as much as it is for us. This is why responsible parents teach their children to gently pet a dog’s back or rear, but don’t pat, and definitely don’t go for the dog’s face. If you really want to reward your dog for being awesome, don’t bang on their head, but give them a rub on their rear end right by the tail. They’ll thank you for it!
4. Walking up to a strange dog while looking her in the eye
We all know how powerful eye contact is. While we view steady eye contact as important, as a sign of trustworthiness or focus, we have to also be aware that eye contact can feel unnerving, uncomfortable and domineering. It’s creepy when a stranger looks us in the eye without breaking contact, especially as they’re approaching. It’s clear their attention is zeroed in, but what is their intention? We have to read the rest of their face for the cues. Eye contact is part of establishing dominance for many species, and in humans, we can use the tiniest of details about the rest of the face — the softness or hardness of the muscles around the eyes and mouth — to determine if the stare is friendly or not. And even then, it’s still creepy to have a stranger stare at us! It feels the same way for dogs. When you look a strange dog right in the eye, unblinking, you might be smiling and trying to warm up to them but the dog is probably reading it as an act of dominance or even aggression. They might display a submissive response — looking away, doing a little wiggle for pets, rolling over onto their backs — or they might start backing up and barking. Either way, for most dogs, a stranger looking it right in the eye while approaching is not a comfortable situation.
If you want to say hello to a new dog in a way that is comfortable for both of you, approach with your body angled slightly (not with your shoulders squared toward the dog), your eyes slightly averted, and speak quietly with a gentle voice. All these body language cues of friendship will help a dog understand you mean no harm. The dog might still want nothing to do with you, but at least you didn’t approach in a scary way that could cause a defensive or aggressive reaction.
5. Not providing structure and rules
Dogs want, need, and love having rules. You might think having strict rules makes life boring or unhappy for your dog. But dogs really want to know what’s what according to their leader. And really, it’s not so hard to relate as humans. Children thrive when they have a consistent set of rules to follow, and they do less well in environments that provide them a free-for-all. Think about polite, well-balanced kids you know, and the spoiled kids who lack social skills or throw temper tantrums when they don’t get what they want. Which set of kids are the ones with consistently enforced rules and boundaries? And which set tends to be most consistently happy? With dogs, it’s pretty much the same thing. Rules make life a lot more predictable, a lot less confusing and a lot less stressful.
And speaking of confusing, dogs don’t understand exceptions to rules. They don’t understand that they’re allowed to jump on you when you have leisure clothes on but not when you have work clothes on. They don’t understand that they’re allowed on the couch after a bath but not after coming in from a romp in the mud. Additionally, saying “No” for breaking a rule but not actually doing something to help the dog stop the behavior and learn the rule doesn’t count as enforcement. Dogs thrive when they know where the boundaries are, and when you spend time enforcing consistent boundaries with positive rewards, you also are building up their trust in you as a leader. You’re setting up conditions for a very happy dog!
6. Forcing your dog to interact with dogs or people she clearly doesn’t like
Just like so many other social species, dogs have their favorite friends and their enemies. It is easy to see what other dogs — and people, for that matter — that a dog wants to hang out with and those with whom she’d rather not associate. Yet, there are a lot of dog owners who go into denial about this or simply fail to read the cues their dog is giving them. It is common for overly enthusiastic owners to push their dog (sometimes literally) into social situations at dog parks when their dog would rather just go home. Or they allow strangers to pet their dog even when she is showing clear signs of wanting to be left alone.
It is important to note that there is a difference between positive encouragement with shy, fearful, or reactive dogs. Taking small steps to encourage them out of their comfort zone and giving them rewards for any amount of calm, happy social behavior is important to helping them live a balanced life. But knowing the difference between gentle, rewards-based boundary pushing and forcing an interaction is vital to your dog’s safety and sanity. When dogs are pushed too far in social situations, they’re more likely to lash out with a bite or a fight. They’ve given cue after cue — ignoring, avoiding, maybe even growling — and finally they’ve had enough and give the clearest message of all with their teeth. What is possibly even worse, is that their trust in you as a protective leader is eroded, and they have an even more negative association with a park, a certain dog or person, or a general social setting. So do your dog a favor: read the body language she gives you when she doesn’t want to be around certain other individuals and don’t force it.
7. Going for walks without opportunity to explore and smell
There are walks, and there are walks. It’s definitely important to have a dog that knows how to walk obediently on a leash. However, it’s also important to allow a dog to have some time to explore her surroundings while walking obediently on a leash. Dogs see with their noses, and they place as much importance on their sense of smell as we humans place on our sense of vision for interpreting the world around us. It’s probably safe to say that dogs appreciate the smell of a tree trunk the way we appreciate a beautiful sunset. Dogs loathe not being able to take in their world for at least a few minutes a day, and too often we humans are focused on going on walks for the sole purpose of exercise or potty breaks. We trudge along the same old route, often without any variety or sense of leisure, and in too much of a hurry to get back home again.
The sense of smell is how a dog takes in the world, and sometimes they’re simply desperate for a chance to take a good sniff. (Photo:Csehak Szabolcs /Shutterstock)
Do your dog a favor and dedicate one of your daily walks to having a “smell walk” — going slow and letting your dog take in the world with her nose. Go somewhere entirely new, explore a different neighborhood or trail, let your dog sniff at a spot until she gets her fill, even if it’s for minutes at a time before moving forward. For helping your dog know the difference between a walk where she should be obedient and stay beside you, and a walk where she is free to explore, you can have a special backpack or harness that you use only for smell walks. Just make sure it is something very different from your usual collar and leash set-up so the different purpose for the walk is obvious to your dog. These walks are a wonderful opportunity for your dog to get some of the mental and sensory stimulation that keeps life interesting for her.
8. Keeping a tight leash, literally
Just as dogs are amazing at reading our body language, they’re amazing at reading our tension levels even through the leash. By keeping a tight leash on a dog, you’re raising the level of stress, frustration, and excitement for your dog, and conversely, for you. I know what you might be thinking: “I don’t want to hold a tight leash, but I have to. My dog is the one pulling, not me!” But this is why it is so important to teach a dog how to walk on a slack leash.
An amazing amount of energy is transferred between you and your dog through that little strip of canvas or leather. By keeping a loose leash, you’re letting your dog know that everything is fine and dandy, that there’s no reason to be worried or tense. With a slack leash you’re saying to your dog that you are calm and have everything under control so your dog is free to be calm as well. On the other hand, by keeping a tight leash you’re sending a message to your dog that you’re tense, nervous, on alert, ready to fight or fly, and your dog responds in kind. Just as you don’t like your dog pulling you around, it doesn’t feel good to your dog to constantly be pulled and thus cued to be on alert. They’re also well-aware that they can’t get away from you even if they think they need to. A dog that walks on a tight leash is more apt to bark or be reactive in even the most mild of social situations. But a dog that can walk on a slack leash is more likely to be calm. This is a difficult thing to master, and something the majority of dog owners can commiserate about, but it is so important to having pleasant walks with a relaxed dog.
9. Being tense
Tension on the leash isn’t the only way a dog can pick up how you’re feeling. You can tell when a person you’re around is feeling tense, even if you don’t realize it. Dogs have the same ability. The more stressed and wound-up you are, the more stressed and wound-up your dog is. And dogs, just like us, don’t like that feeling. You might roll your eyes, but the next time your dog is acting frustrated and tense, check in with yourself — have you been feeling that way for the last few minutes, for the last few hours, or the last few days? Your dog might just be acting as your mirror. If you need a reason to meditate, helping your dog calm down is a great one.
10. Being boring
You know that feeling of being stuck hanging around someone who is totally boring? Think back: remember having to be with your parents while they ran grown-up errands? None of which revolved around a toy store or park, of course. Remember that feeling of barely being able to contain yourself, of wanting to squirm and groan and complain. You couldn’t take part in the adult conversation, which was boring anyway, and you were told to sit still and hush. But oh boy did you ever want to just moooove! Just run around the block or something to break the monotony. That’s how your dog feels when you’re busy being that boring grown-up. Dogs abhor it when we’re boring. And it’s hard not to be! We get home from work and we want to unwind, to get a few chores done, to make dinner and sack out on the couch and relax. But that’s about the most annoying thing we could do to our dogs who have been waiting around all day for us to finally play with them.
If your dog is making trouble — getting into boxes or closets, eating shoes or chewing on table legs — she’s basically showing you just how incredibly bored she is. Luckily, there is a quick and easy solution to this: training games. Teaching your dog a new trick, working on old tricks, playing a game of “find it” with a favorite toy, or going out and using a walk as a chance to work on urban agility, are all ways to stimulate both your dog’s mind and body. An hour of training is worth a couple hours playing a repetitive game of fetch in terms of wearing a dog out. While of course exercise and walks are important, adding in some brain work will make your dog happy-tired. Even just 15-30 minutes of trick training a day will make a big difference.
11. Teasing
This should be obvious, and we won’t spend too much time on it. But it’s worth pointing out because too many people still think it’s funny. Don’t bark at a dog as you pass it on the street. Don’t wave or talk to a dog that is barking at you from behind a window or door. Don’t pull on a dog’s tail. The list can go on and on, but in short, don’t do something you know makes a dog mad just because you think it’s funny. It’s not funny to the dog and can lead to some serious behavioral problems — and, perhaps deservedly, you getting to sport some new dog-shaped teeth marks.
Further Reading
If you’d like to learn more about how to be a better friend to your dog, try these great book recommendations. For example, in “The Other End of the Leash: Why We Do What We Do Around Dogs” professional behaviorist and trainer Patricia B. McConnell goes into excellent detail about the species differences between primates and canids and why dogs don’t appreciate our hugs, as well as many other great ways of understanding a dog’s perspective about the world. Meanwhile, in “Inside of a Dog: What Dogs See, Smell, and Know” by Alexandra Horowitz, you’ll get a chance to see the world through a dog’s eyes and learn so much about body language, the importance of scent, and other things that will help you know more about what your dog wants out of life. And for understanding more about how clicker training and training games can help you and your dog get along better, try “Reaching the Animal Mind: Clicker Training and What It Teaches Us About All Animals” by Karen Pryor. Follow the link for these and more great reads.
http://www.bodymindsoulspirit.com/11-things-humans-do-that-dogs-hate/
There is an imbalance. We need more woof-woof and less meow-meow in this thread.
There are exceptions to the rules though.
Our Rottweiler Remy...RIP ( had bone cancer and we had to put him to sleep last year...we put some of his ashes in the creek he used to like to splash and lie down in...he would blow bubbles in the water ) sweet boy...would love head pats...the harder the better...in fact he liked the full body karate chop massage....or sometimes I would give him deep tissue shoulder rubs all down his spine....he loved it...but head pats he loved too...he would turn his head this way or that to get the spot he was after...funny guy.
He was a big teddy-bear.
Besides meow-meow and woof-woof, we need more squeak-squeak. Other animal sounds can be found here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_animal_sounds.
How are your psychedelic trips going, Skare? Perhaps that you are not using "shroom" currently. Nevertheless, you are out traveling in colorful spaces.