Have you had a crush or has someone had a crush on you for an extended period of time?
How long is too long to hold onto a crush?
If a crush goes on for years, is it still a crush or is it something else?
If a crush goes on for years, is it still a crush or is it something else?
I think it is mostly a lack of being in touch with reality but perhaps there are better explanations.
What makes it last for so long, though? Why don't they eventually lose interest?
What makes it last for so long, though? Why don't they eventually lose interest?
What makes it last for so long, though? Why don't they eventually lose interest?
What makes it last for so long, though? Why don't they eventually lose interest?
Also, on a fundamental level it is a lack of respect for the person they are crushing on in the sense that they do not accept that the other person does not feel the same way and may not ever feel the same way. It is thinking that there is something so special about you that your crush might FINALLY notice it, but they just haven't quite noticed it yet! But they will! No. They won't.
It is ruining what could be a friendship for the long term hope that maybe the other person will eventually change their mind. Because they have to eventually, right? Yea, probably not after the person with a crush makes a fool out of themselves for years.
Have you had a crush or has someone had a crush on you for an extended period of time?
How long is too long to hold onto a crush?
If a crush goes on for years, is it still a crush or is it something else?
Years later, I got a better grasp on this person, and while I still appreciated aspects of his character it was certainly not love and probably never would have been crush either. Damn, but I was hot for him!
This made me realize that I have never gotten together with a crush. I thought that was weird. I have either had crushes that changed into friendship after a few months or I didn't think about them at all anymore after seeing something in them that killed the crush.
I'll be honest.
I have a few crushes that I have had 15 years or more. The situation with these particular few (and makes more sense after finding out my personality, and my need for a perfect relationship), 1 we will call him J.T. and 2 we will call him C.R.
J.T. and I had our little fling when we were still both virgins, we actually almost lost it to one another, but his mother walked in right before. Embarrassing. Something that still comes to mind every single time him and I talk. He remembers it, I remember it. Also he lost his path on Drugs and Alcohol, and i cannot bring myself to accept that even though he's clean, he is still the teenage boy I remember. But his looks, his eyes, his lips, his teeth, his height, his build, is what I always look for in a man. So physically he's perfect, he's had some other issues. Maybe this borderlines on obsession.
C.R. came a few years later. He has the height of J.T. has the same straight pearly whites, piercing blue eyes. Again, we were in the middle of a fling, which never reached a point of sexuality, physicality yes, but never that extra bit. He moved away with his family, and I ran into him the beginning of this year. He just moved back to Colorado, and we recognized each other immediately and began reminiscing. I was open and available to us maybe starting something, but then he pulled back, and hasnt spoke to me recently. He has actually started talking to a friend of mine ( a friend i need to walk away from because she always goes after the guys i like) and now i feel that if the opportunity ever does arise in the future, i will reject him, because he talked to her.
I think that people might mistake an attraction (but no desire to pursue that attraction) as a crush - where it's more just a recognition of attraction and chemistry.Have you had a crush or has someone had a crush on you for an extended period of time?
I haven't had a crush on someone since highschool - a crush being interested in someone and wanting a chance to pursue that interest.
I have a million of 'crushes' where I think someone is attractive and will flirt with them (it's actually regardless of gender), but have no desire to pursue anything than just friendly 'crushing' on them.
How long is too long to hold onto a crush?
I think, at a certain age, a crush is not healthy. If you're interested in pursuing someone, and think they might be someone you'd be interested in on a romantic level, then you should pursue it upfront- rather than sit back and long for them. It's not healthy for you, if you truly are interested in them.
If a crush goes on for years, is it still a crush or is it something else?