INFJ Loneliness

[Hyacinth]

omg this is me. So relatable.

 

[AngelineIsTyping]

Ugh this is the worst, I so don’t miss those years. Here’s what I learned people don’t think like us so I no longer say how I’m feeling because it’s not safe to open up to anyone outside of this forum. I was in hindsight stupidly opened up to people since it’s my way of connecting with people and did so on regular social media as a way of trying to get healing for what was done to my child from a community that tried to get her to commit suicide and film it as she was doing so. They chewed me up and spat me out. Moral of the story is that other types could honestly care less what they do to us. Take the lessons that each of us go through on here and do the opposite as an INFJ because our hard lessons can come with the upper advantage of learning from our mistakes. I keep myself closed up now and meet people where they are at instead of where I’m at. Saves me a lot of grief in the long run. A lot of people are very much unsympathetic and will blame you for “being too soft” so protect your heart at all costs. It’s your greatest feature and deserves your safeguard. All love comes with risks but only open up as far as they do so that you won’t need therapy later cause lord I’ve had to spend a lot of money to get to where I’m at today but it was an investment in myself so that I could overcome all of my challenges in life.

Every time someone says to me that high school was “the best years” of their life, I want to fall off my chair laughing because high school was definitely not sunshines and rainbows, at least not for me. It’s kinda sad we have to meet them at their level and not ours. I think we should just let our waves keep roaring and drown them out because they’re not worth our time and attention. Like, make small talk every now and then but make sure that our thoughts operate at a different wavelength so that we can craft battle plans and creative exit strategies while they babble about the weather lol.

 

[Hyacinth]

Every time someone says to me that high school was “the best years” of their life, I want to fall off my chair laughing because high school was definitely not sunshines and rainbows, at least not for me. It’s kinda sad we have to meet them at their level and not ours. I think we should just let our waves keep roaring and drown them out because they’re not worth our time and attention. Like, make small talk every now and then but make sure that our thoughts operate at a different wavelength so that we can craft battle plans and creative exit strategies while they babble about the weather lol.

Right?!? Definitely not the best years. I mean you can meet them at your level but prepare for some backlash because that’s all I’ve gotten. When you meet them at their level they’re not as quick to tear you down from feeling threatened by you. In a perfect world, sure we could ask them to rise up to our level but it doesn’t happen. Each personality type has something to contribute and they excel in areas that we don’t so truth be told we all need each other but not everyone deserves the full you. Reserve that for those worthy of your time and attention. Our capabilities are rare and deserves to be carefully crafted and in the wrong hands it won’t be.