So does anyone else find this the most frustrating thing in the world? I think INTPs are great as long as everything is going swimmingly but if you ever have a bad day and just want a hug or a bit of support, my one anyway just thinks I'm being mopey and feeling sorry for myself and literally overlooks my little whinges. The ironic thing is that if I knew that I could go to him when I needed emotional support I doubt I'd do it very often. I just hate that feeling of "well he's not going to care, I'll go talk to this person instead". I feel like I give so much to relationships, this one as much as ever, that a little bit of help on that front shouldn't be that much to ask. And frankly it is the most necessary thing, I so need to feel that little connection. He says he'l work on it (which is nice because at least he takes on criticism, whereas my ex used to just do things ever the more to irritate me) but does anyone else have an INTP partner who was actually able to learn these skills? Is it possible to get better at these things, and not even that, but to recognise their importance? I think that's his falling point, he literally doesn't think it's that big a thing and that to get annoyed because he's not bothered about my cold or my feeling ill or whatever is really petty. I can see it from his point of view but at the same time as I said before if I thought he was going to help me out I wouldn't be testing it on the little things. So yeh, main question guys, anyone who's experienced this and had the arguments and come out the other side? He's a good man and is good for me in a lot of ways and really wouldn't like to split up over this tbh, at whatever stage....