I have snapped a few times but it is rare. I'm not a very physical pain type person.
I'm much less violent now, too. Not that I ever was...
I'm much less violent now, too. Not that I ever was...
INFJs, from what I can gather are not typically physically abusive or aggressive people. However, I believe you can have an aggressive and violent disposition without ever having got in a fight or hurting someone.
Do you think that you are an aggressive and violent person? What is your experience of violence and harmful intent? Have you ever commited acts of or have you ever had extended periods of aggressive or violent thoughts, feelings and actions? Has there been times in your life where violent thoughts or acts were a way to release pent up anger or issues with yourself and others?
What is your attitude towards violence? Do you feel that it is a natural or conducive part of the human condition?
From what I've gathered so far, it seems the female members get what I'm saying. I don't know what that says about me!
The distinction between the two is that guys interpret this thread and it's initial questions as whether or not they get into fights. Like I said, the act of fighting itself is pretty irrelevant, it's the mind set I'm interested in and the long or short term exposure to a aggressive thoughts, that don't necessarily equate to brawls. It's common for fights between guys to take place over absolutely nothing and of course there is the intoxication factor. So by that, I wouldn't be surprised if people who are completely non-violent have got into a few scrapes in their lives.
But it's all very interesting... (strokes chin)
Violence and anger are like dominoes. There is always a cause and effect relationship. To reject the premise of violence even when violated is to be the domino that didn't fall over simply because it had been acted upon.
I know animal welfare is usually one that sparks the agression in us. At least me, anyway.
You see, this interesting, because that really challenges the perception of INFJs and how they apparently seek to avoid conflict and seek mutually agreeable states. Even if we do, we are willing to back it up. Maybe this is just my perception, but a lot of descriptions on INFJ types, present us as passive and devoid of conflict skills, which I find quite annoying.
Most people don't like to address these issues regardless of type, so it shouldn't really come to any surprise, condisering our scarcity, that INFJs are actually caged up monsters. And that might stem from the various social and emotional issues we inevitably face growing up.
I'm changing my ways. If someone were to punch me, I'd turn my face and let them punch the other side. If someone were to do harm to me, I'll forgive them. Anger and aggression are melting pots for hate. I don't wanna be hateful any more.
Anger is just a valid a feeling as love. If you stuff it down it will erupt elsewhere in time. Just learn when to release it and you will be straight. If someone hits you, you should detach their jaw, rightfully.