[PAX] INFJ-isms!

How on earth is this an INFJ-ism?

 

if you're an INFJ female, and you don't want your penis-toting partner to feel inadequate?

Here's one:
No really, you can tell me about all your problems. I just like to listen.

 

I'm so sorry (for your rudeness)

Since you don't appreciate that I've actually been listening to your inane drivel for half an hour, now I'm just nodding and smiling, and oh look, it has the same effect on you.

Of course I don't mind doing your job, that you're paid much more than me to do, while you sit on your ass playing solitaire.

 

I've tried to explain this to you, you will regret doing this.

A little later. I told you so but you wouldn't listen

Other person: continues not to listen.

 

That is so not INFJ exclusive.

 

Works both ways. Have you ever tried telling an intuitive person that something is a bad idea? The trouble with intuition is you automatically assume it's right.

That said I have to take a while to understand why an intuitive person is telling me something is a bad idea. They tend to work backwards through ideas to me. But I have just as much trouble vice versa. It's hard to get it in their heads that one little problem can bring the whole thing down.

Nah it's not INFJ exclusive. It's just one of those S vs N things that both sides have trouble dealing with.

 

^infjs' intuition is often right though, and i think their trust in it is based on a lifetime of experience (lol thats my hunch anyway). plus it's not always possible to verbalize how you know something, it just comes to you, it's innate, but i'm sure there's a technical reason for it that we just don't fully understand yet. there are many roads to rome, as they say..

 

Sensing is also often right. Believe it or not most people are right most of the time. It's just harder for us to understand why each other is right.

 

heh so true. if we could communicate perfectly and without misunderstandings, i think we'd all be amazed at what we could learn from each other

 

Just to clarify. Introverted Intuition (Ni) is subconscious pattern recognition. Its not magic its just really hard to make sense to someone who dosen't have it. Its the most subconscious of the congetive functions and is the hardest to explain to another person.

 

I'm inclined to agree. But INFJ's aren't the only ones with Ni. Even if it's a tertiary trait of mine I can still use and understand it.

Anyway, telling someone something is a bad idea and them not listening isn't an INFJ thing, it's a humanity thing. Some people just can't be dissuaded from bad ideas.

 

ahhh I see

 

Likes this :bounce:

 

You: You just have to trust me on this one.

Them: But why? You can't possible know.

You: Just trust me.

Them: Whatever!


* I just treat people the way I would want to be treated. Why is being the "nice guy" so bad to a lot of people?

* I can't solve your problem for you. Only you can do that. I can listen and give affirmation though of what I think is right.

* Me thinking in my head: "You really do NOT have to fill all the silence up with trival, mundane chatter. I really don't care about the neighbor's dog!"

* I'm sorry I asked something for myself. What was I thinking? Back to you....

 

Person: "Thanks so much for the great chat!"

Me thinking: "I didn't say one word!"

 

The ones listed so far are quite true.