I don't find it too difficult to get off on a good start with someone, as long as I have someone to support me. In other words, if I have a friend with me, it's easier to be comfortable approaching people. If I don't have a friend...well, I don't approach people. My year in the Netherlands was spent all but alone because I didn't know anyone, and didn't really have the guts to get to know anyone.
But those are acquaintances. People I can laugh with. Friends, people I care about...it usually takes at least half a year to move to that point. It takes a long time for me to trust and form a bond. It took me almost four or five years before I considered my ESTP friend to be my best friend and really feel that deep connection.
So, in other words, it's both easy and difficult for me. It's easy to play the socialite and put on an ENFJ face. It's difficult to actually connect to people.
My friendships are usually pretty light and for-the-fun until someone connects. When they connect, I care deeply, and sometimes it complicates things. I want to make people happy, so I second guess myself a lot, and I'm careful to reveal myself only at the right times and when the other person is ready to meet that part of me. True friends make me feel comfortable, and I want to be around them a lot. Usually, though, the other person doesn't seem to feel quite as deeply, but I understand that, and have come to terms to it. I have to kind of open the floodgates slowly so that they're not overwhelmed by my raging love :B
And I place a huge importance on my friendships. Those few deep bonds mean so much to me...that year alone overseas made me realize that. If someone gets close to me, the idea of losing them is terrifying to me. Social bonds cause probably more stress to me than most things. But, I suppose, that's why I don't connect to many people...