just thought of this. how do you know if you are in love with a person or in with with the idea of love? nothing to do with me personally. just thought of it
I mean, sure, be honest... don't fake loving someone; but at the same time, don't expect some momentous sign streaming down from on high in the form of electric neon glow to tell you what is and is not love, either. Be giving, be kind, appreciate others, cooperate more often than you compete, etc. Blah blah...
Yep. Good point.
how do you know if you are in love with a person or in with with the idea of love?
Good question. I think it can be easy to confuse it but i think the difference is that when you're in love with the idea of love, you're not really seeing the person. Instead, you're focused more on the feelings and how the feelings make you feel, not how the person makes you feel. When you're in love with the idea of love, you idealize being in relationships. You perceive being in love as some overwhelming state of being which will make everything perfect and great. You imagine that it can do things it really can't, and you don't want to want to accept anything that says it won't. There is also a set romanticized idea of love. It's more a fantasy than reality. And you're more likely to impose feelings of affection on someone because you're in love with the thought of them, than actually develop real feelings for them. And the classic "in love with the idea of love" tends to view love as this overwhelming, all consuming force and feeling which you have no choice but to submit to because it is so high.
Does it matter what causes you focus on something that feels good? Personally I think everyone is in love with being in love. I've never met anyone that said 'oh hell, I hate being in love. I just don't want to feel good'. The only thing that makes people say 'I am in lover with him\her' is that looking at that person makes them feel good because that person is pleasing to them. But at the end of the day it's the feeling which they are craving not the other person.
This is off topic, but I like this quote:
It is only when you open the door and step out that you realise it was never locked at all. - me
and this
I am here, was here, will always be here. Then again, I'm also not here, never was here, and never will be here. - me