Wow....it seems like I'm the only one so far who isn't avoidant, even in spite of my shyness! I wonder why that is...
How would you try to catch the eye of another person?
um....I guess just by saying hi and smiling, or just by talking to them, because I naturally maintain nearly constant eye contact, and when we establish it, we rarely break it until one of us has to leave.
How would you respond if they tried to catch your eye?
Same as above, pretty much, though if I haven't been around her much, I'd be pretty shy and embarassed and probably not say much, or just say something really quietly.
Is there ever such a thing as too much interest shown by the other party?
I've never had to deal with that, but I guess as long as she isn't being really overbearing, it's fine; I don't have any personal space, and I like being close to others.
Would you ever ask somebody out before they had demonstrated distinct interest in you?
As long as she seems to really like talking to me, and shows interest in being around me more, then I would, though initially it would probably be just something simple like playing tennis (or some other pretty casual activity), going out to eat and hanging out at a mall, or inviting her to a group thing that I'm going to be in, like a cookout, bowling, a church activity, hanging out at a park....basically, anything where there's a relaxed environment with little to no interruptions where we can have fun getting to know each other better. I guess it would be like a really intimate, open friendship, which I personally think is the best way to build a life-long relationship (marriage included), and that's all that I've ever really wanted.
Do you take risks in relationships?
I've never been in one, but the riskiest thing I've done is that one time I did ask a girl out back in high school, but, of course, she said no for a b.s. reason that I didn't realize was b.s. at the time. (long story that I don't want to go into because it still hurts even to this day)
Once you have made contact, do you try to define the dating relationship? Or do you go with the flow?
I would definitely go with the flow (that's how I am anyways) because then there's no pressure and no feeling of obligation (like you have to do things in a set order/schedule or whatever), which would make things feel routine and impersonal, and I don't want that. That would make it predictable as well, and predictability leads to stagnation in relationships. Also, you have to be flexible because you can't always expect someone to drop whatever they had planned just to be with you, especially if they have work or other obligations, and I definitely wouldn't want to hoard her for myself either and keep her from her friends or family, and if she needed time to herself, that would also be fine with me, cause I totally understand that. Of course, if I do make plans, I stick to them, emergencies being the only reason to deviate from them (like canceling altogether, I mean; timing can always be adjusted as needed).
What is your opinion on the existence of "love at first sight"?
It doesn't work like that. However, I am able to tell, right away when I see someone [in person], without knowing anything about them, if they are going to make a big difference in my life, whether for good or bad. The girls that I have experienced that with, I did not intentionally seek out, nor did I analyze them from a distance, or anything at all like that....I just somehow knew that they had the kind of personality, interests, life experience, views, etc. that are compatible with me, and the more I got to know them, the more I proved myself right.
What is your opinion on gestures of physical affection when in a relationship?
I'd be open to pretty much anything, though I have basically no experience with this; I haven't had my first kiss yet or even held hands. All I've ever done is just brief, friendly hugs.
On a first date, how do you usually act?
I can't say for sure, since I've never been on one, but I'd probably be really happy, excited, hopeful, and a bit nervous. I also get embarrassed really easily, I guess due in part to my relative naivity and complete lack of experience in relationships (I wouldn't know what to do or expect at all), but I'd do my best to not let that get in the way of things. If anything, I guess it might even come off as kinda cute, in a way, though it's in no way intentional.
Would you ask your date out again?
I most definitely would!
How would you like to be approached by an interested person?
I don't have a preference.
How long does it take for you to decide to date exclusively?
I guess....as long as it takes for the both of us to feel comfortable enough around each other and have progressed to the point of wanting more commitment. Again, I wouldn't know how long that would be because it's never happened before.
What do you do that you consider a "dead give-away" that you like somebody?
There isn't really anything in particular, aside from being a lot happier and more energetic around her than I normally am, but when I like someone, it's REALLY obvious, just from how I act around her, even though I don't even try to make it obvious; it just ends up that way just from me being myself, because of how honest and caring I am.....I mostly don't even notice it myself, though from what I've heard, everyone else does.
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