I have tried a lot of times to persuade myself to socialize, but really just cannot be bothered. Be it clubs, bars or even Mosques (I know it's hilarious to put them in the same sentence, but I happen to be a Muslim, albeit with very week spirituality at this moment in time, but a lot of Muslims use Mosques as a place for socializing). I have always been like this, even as a kid, no matter wherever it is, be it my tiny home country in South Asia or be it north-western Europe where I've been living for a decade. My mom and I always used to have fight cos she just couldn't make me go to social events, like weddings, celebration events, class parties, etc. Most things I enjoy doing can be alone, traveling, cooking new things, programming, reading, singing etc.
Having said all the above things I wrote, I'm not shy at all. In fact, if anything, people sometimes get amazed about straight forward I can be. I also don't have difficulty making friends if I do happen to meet people. Which is why, I do have some friends who I met during my university days. But after leaving University I haven't really managed to make new friends. As for relationships, I never really had one, even though I dated a few.
Is there anyone else who is like me? Who can't be arsed about socializing? If yes, how did you find good friends and girlfriends and have relationships? I ask this question especially to the guys, because we have to do the actual work for finding relationships, women usually have it quite easy. In some cases, women don't even have to socialize that much, guys somehow manage to find them anyway, lol.
So, please enlighten me. Thanks.
Having said all the above things I wrote, I'm not shy at all. In fact, if anything, people sometimes get amazed about straight forward I can be. I also don't have difficulty making friends if I do happen to meet people. Which is why, I do have some friends who I met during my university days. But after leaving University I haven't really managed to make new friends. As for relationships, I never really had one, even though I dated a few.
Is there anyone else who is like me? Who can't be arsed about socializing? If yes, how did you find good friends and girlfriends and have relationships? I ask this question especially to the guys, because we have to do the actual work for finding relationships, women usually have it quite easy. In some cases, women don't even have to socialize that much, guys somehow manage to find them anyway, lol.
So, please enlighten me. Thanks.
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