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    What do you even want to do with the people once you’ve met them @selfHater07 ?

    Ps, do you have haterade instead of blood in your veins?
     
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    Try a language exchange group or meetups? Good on you for being proactive!
     
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    I read something once (although I can’t remember where)... and it said something along the lines of... you just HAVE to force yourself to socialize. There is nothing wrong with being an introvert but being TOO introvert is not a good thing. You have to force yourself to schedule a dose of socialization every once in a while, just like you have to force yourself to go to the gym. It’s out of your comfort zone but it’s good for you. Like force yourself to have lunch with your coworkers at least 2 days out of the week then attend a social event at least once a month... something like that.
     
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    Yep. I will make plans and then want to dip out last minute but I make myself go anyway. And I never regret it. It's always a great time. The last time was a few weeks ago when some old co-workers wanted to meet up for drinks. And we got caught up and bonded more and had a great time. Was so worth it.
     
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    Thankfully now we can just say 'I'm being cautious about Coronavirus, sorry'.

    And then sit at home and do fuck all :relaxed:
     
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    I'm going to be soooo extroverted when this coronavirus thing blows over... (For about a week.)
     
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    Lol. People are complaining that I don't text them back quick enough now, so extroversion invades even my solitude.

    That's the real virus here, isn't is? Extroversion.
     
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    I second Meetup! I didn't especially want to go and meet new people but I found an event that I actually wanted to go to but had nobody to go with and this group was going. I've been to a few more and it's mostly films at the cinema with drinks before or after so not too much full on socialising for its own sake. Also, it's a horror film group so there's an easy go-to common interest. I did not think it was for me but I've had some good times.
     
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    That’s good! I definitely would choose to stay home and binge on good shows vs. going out... then I started to realize that my family/friends stopped reaching out because they were just so used to me rejecting their offers to hang out. I started to realize that wasn’t necessarily fair of me to do to them and it was rather selfish of me... so I’m the last few years I’ve tried to be better about saying yes to gatherings and not being what people refer to as a “party pooper.”
     
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    ....I've done the same in the past and it really upset friends who didn't understand I was in extreme introvert mode. So now I push myself to go and end up having a great time anyway. We just have to get out of our own heads sometimes.
     
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    I have casual acquaintances or work "friends". Nothing like I had in High School or my early 20's. But that's ok. I solely focus on my immediate family (wife, children, grandson) and I'm good with that. I understand it might be different for those who are younger or have no family.
     
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