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  1. arbygil

    arbygil Passing through

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    As INFJs I think we're all very adept at withdrawing when we need to/want to. But how are some ways you choose to disappear? And do you think all are healthy for you? Definition of disappearing: Withdrawing too much and risking who you essentially are.

    I think I use Se heavy activities that aren't always healthy in larger amounts: gaming, wandering around the Internet (just say no!), and nibbling (step away from the chocolate NOW!).

    Before, I used to read a lot of books or go see good/deep movies, or write stories and poems. Or draw cartoons. I used to engage my mind a little bit to balance myself. Now? Hm. I do such things less and less - which bugs me.

    Ah, well. I think we all go through the blues, but sometimes we need to go from blue to green.
     
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    When I want to disappear, I just close my eyes so I can't see myself.
     
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    :( That's so sweet.
     
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    i withdraw to the point when i no longer care how far i go, emotionally and mentally distancing myself from loved ones and friends...

    ... and once i am to that point, i find myself wanting to connect with others again, only to have to build up bridges along the way...


    ... i've been in this state for the past 3-4 months now...
     
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    just cut off connection - emails, IMs, keep the phone off. essentially, becoming a hermit.

    sleep. lots of sleep.
     
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    I try very hard not to let it get out of hand, because I could very easily lock myself in my room and never leave. I do all the obvious; reading, writing, watching tv/internet videos, meditating, listening to music and also organizing things when things are messy. I also enjoy video games quite a bit, but have played hardly any in recent months.

    Also posting on forums. :m158:
     
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    I become reclusive.
     
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    My room loses all exits and my bed becomes a cocoon.
     
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    heh i don't have a room so i use the internet.But i think my magic spells works well.I just think that i want to disappear and have no presence in others.
     
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    Ditto.
     
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    Sometimes I wonder if you are actually an SP efromm.
     
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    Maybe, just the picking up and then dropping of various interests seems like an SP thing to do and you seem to enjoy living in the moment so much which is also a SP trait. I would definitely look into it.

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    :hug: brothers of typeology lol
     
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    internet for me too, unfortunately because I often end up feeling guilty about not doing anything really constructive...

    otherwise drawing/painting, or writing in my diary. Actually I find the diary thing really good because on top of physical withdrawal it also allows you to step back and analyse the state you are in and/or what you are going through at the moment. I find it adds to the distance you take with the external world, in a positive way.
     
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    Exactly like that, except I don't always want to reconect to people. Just want to be alone, which is really weird to outsiders ("what's wrong with you?" "Are you ok?" "You look sad" ..........)
     
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    Reading and lots and lots and lots of writing when I was younger (youth/teens/20's).

    Painting, sketching and decoupaging a little later (20's/30's).

    For the past 10 years it's all been computer-related escapism (IRC, games, forums). For the entire first year here after we moved, my son, husband and I all became addicted to Runescape and played incessantly. Then Tom quit and went on to become an Eve online junkie, and that's where he's remained. I really liked it when we were all escaped to the same fantasy world :(

    Now though sometimes being online is even a bit too "connected" for me, so I'll go to my room and re-watch one of my "comfort" DVDs (Sense & Sensibility, Serenity, Bleak House) with my dog.

    Of all of my Disappearing Acts, I firmly believe the time I spent in artistic endeavors was the most healthy. I replenished all my art supplies a few months ago, but just can't get inspired. At least I know it's all there should I need it.
     
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    ... the longest i withdrew from people spanned a few years... and toward the end, i realized i need the social interaction in my life...

    ... being mentally and emtionally away for a long period of time was taking a toll on my physical and well-being states...

    ... so now when i withdraw from people, i try not let it control me...


    -----edit-----

    i also write in journals, some entries for pages at a time... i have journals that have taken place over the past 7 years and now i'm looking at getting one of them published at the moment though...
     
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    I forgot to mention when I am depressed/upset all I want to do is sleep... alot.
     
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