How can INFJs be psychologists?

I want to become a psychologist because of the contribution I know I will make in the lives of people. I have in mind that some of their problems are going to become absorbed onto me but I also have hope that I can use all my skills to overcome that and help them get out of whichever problem they might have. So basically, my main motivation to become a psychologist is accomplishment of having made a difference in the lives of people. Having empathy is a great thing as long as you can use that to connect with your patients and be able to help them out.

 

You develop yourself so that you have a healthy detachment from the problems of others you are seeking to counsel.

 

I'm avoiding counseling for that reason. I couldn't stand watching others succumb to their problems, especially in the severe cases (such as having a patient who commits suicide).

 

The kind of detachment needed for this would involve the Ni and Ti functions. There is also a desensitization that occurs when you are dealing with large numbers of people.

I think INFJs would tend to be rather insightful in those professions, but also prone to experience burn-out. I started a master's in counseling once, but would have to say that a doctorate in psychology would probably be a better fit being more abstract and going into deeper focus into the actual workings of the mind. The counseling programs trains a person to work primarily with addicts and family issues. On one level the focus is rather external, but on another level internal. In a way it takes a rather gritty person who can form really strong boundaries with others and have a great deal of ego strength. This is especially true of dealing with addicts. The professor I had whose specialty was addiction was an E?T? and even she had dealt with burnout. Areas like working with children or the elderly, or doing creative arts therapy might be a better fit. I would say it would be for me anyway.

I've always had a funny empathy/detachment dichotomy. There are certain kinds of interactions I can keep at arm's length, but others not so much. It is difficult to explain the difference. It has to do with maintaining an awareness of what I can or cannot do to help, as well as creating strong boundaries. I've always had people approach me with their problems, and I have enjoyed helping, but if the person doesn't seem to have the resources to be a support to me, then they don't end up in my inner circle, so I don't get that wrapped up in their problems. Maybe it has to do with having a clear sense of my own limitations and that there really isn't that much I can do to help in some situations. No one can fix someone else's problems, but only provide a little encouragement and hope they will have the motivation to move forward.

 

Well, it seems like being aware of empathy in the way that many NFs are, actually puts us in a pretty good position to objectify everything that is going on, even with the vehicle of feeling. Once all of those reactions and feeligs are put into plain view and objectified(which I think is especially possible for many NFs in seeing so clearly those feelings and their source) I think it puts us into a perfect position to be detached enough to work with them regularly.

 

My mother had very weak boundaries, which was confusing and, I believe, unhealthy for my brothers and me growing up. As a result, I was determined to develop strong boundaries with my own children, though I loved/love them beyond telling, I was able to do so. It occurs to me I could use the same kind of process to develop boundaries with clients/patients as a psychologist--not that I'm going to become one. I just believe it's possible and I think at least a few of the many therapists I've had over the years have been INFJs, including my current one, who is the best I've ever had.

 

Being as I'm in a counseling program...

Yes, you do learn to detach. But, as one of the numerous MBTI summaries of us once said, "INFJs are the most vulnerable to the spontaneous eruption of their own archetypal issues during the therapeutic process." We have to be comfortable with ourselves before we can hope to work with others, or else we just get lost and confused.

How do you learn to not take on other people's stuff? For me, it took getting knocked down one too many times. After that, there's always this little bit of vigilance - which both keeps you alert and a bit cynical as well.

 

Read about countertransference, it explains a lot.

 

Oh, God, I have counter transferred and transferred... you know, this is VERY good though in object-relationships therapy (analytical psychology) and other depth psychology. That's where the meat is at.

 

Sitting and listening to people's problems all day seems like a nightmare.

What can *you* do about it? It's not your problem.

 

Agreed, plus it would get very tiring also

I wouldn't mind being a career counselor, though. You get to help people, give them advice for a career, and you can be happy

What do guys think about this?

 

I went to one last week. the results were ok, though I expected way more (I had to do a LOT of tests and stuff)