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    Is honesty an INFJ trait. I am honest to my own detriment. I wonder about this. I can't fake things and I can't lie. Any thoughts?
     
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    I don't think it depend on personality types. It depends on person how he wants to be with people. I am also an honest person and also can't lie to people. It is not my subject and lie kills many hearts.
     
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    Lying is near impossible for me. My eyes are so expressive that if the other person is paying enough attention, they'll see the guilt.
    But, I still feel incredibly guilty afterward, so I usually don't lie unless I feel it's necessary.
     
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    I agree with this. I have lied in the past though, if I felt that the truth would hurt the person in question too much. :(
     
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    This means you are totally honest person with yourself.
     
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    Yes, I'm like that, I can lie if it means sparing another person's feelings.
    As long as I'm able to rationalize within myself that lying is the best way to handle the situation, I can do it, because then I don't feel guilty.
     
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    :hug: :hug: Thank you.
     
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    I think that honesty can be a little bit subjective. Some people will say: "I didn't lie I said that " But the lie or truth is that they are splitting hairs to conceal something. I find that very aggravating. It makes me nervous when people do that because I don't know what to believe.
     
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    I was very honest, before I started being in relationships with women...

    :p
     
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    I dont know if its an INFJ thing...but I SUCK at lying...anyone can see right through me...
     
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    I resent this comment on behalf of all women :m185:
     
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    Ok, let me lie and take it back...

    LOL
     
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    I am a good lier, a very good lier. I never use it for malitious intentions though, nor do I ever break a promise that someone makes me, nor do I divulge someething that someone has swore me to secretrecy on.
     
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    :m125:...wait...ok I resent it on behalf of all women with hearts...good hearts...:m185:
     
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    Ok, now I'm just confused, LOL.
     
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    uhm...yea me too...:m047:
     
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    Yes, I believe it is and I am very greatful for it because others can trust me. It's a good quality to have.
     
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    I've always been a very honest person, to my own detriment...or so I thought. I have come to the very recent conclusion that I believe in brutal honesty even if it hurts. Anything less is fake and self-serving. I don't want to be around anyone that isn't brutally honest. Maybe that sounds kinda harsh, but I have had enough of people waiting until they get really mad and then telling you what they really think of you. I think that lying to be nice is a character flaw. Maybe I will be proved wrong. I guess this is kind of an experiment, lets see how it goes.
     
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    It is good to be honest.
     
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    Not lying may have something to do with the intense conscience and feelings of guilt that INFJs are prone to (as far as I've heard at least).

    I find that I can't lie without feeling physically ill or pained, unless I really don't care about that person at all (and I care about most people XD). A good example was when I first lied to my mum (I was about 7, so I'm not sure what I lied about) but I had to get up after not being able to sleep and tell her the truth XD She said it wasn't a big deal at all.
    Maybe INFJs over-inflate the importance of honesty to others that are not INFJs (or INTJs XD).
     
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