Recently I've discovered that most of the women I've ever been seriously attracted to were INFJs. So I have some questions about a current situation I would like to discuss.
The background, this woman is part of my social circle. Last year we got pretty close, thought maybe she wanted to be more than friends. Then she got embarrassed, withdrew and door slammed me. A few months later she let me back into her life, but every time I've seen her since it's been intense with lots of mixed signals.
So, here are a few thoughts to comment on:
Eye-Contact/Deathstare - She makes crazy eye contact with me, looks like she wants to eat me. I watched a youtube that this isn't flirtatious just something that INFJs do. I hold it because I'm an ENTP and I know that it's just a game. I LOVE great eye-contact, so sexy. Does it mean anything, I've never seen her do it to anyone else.
Touch - She's never touched me, not in a flirty way. We've only hugged twice ever (one was an awkward side hug and the other was a very emotional time for both of us, and I had to initiate it), which is really odd from my other female friends who always want to hug. She hugs other people, but never me. In fact, the last time we were together, at one point she moved away quickly when I got too close (although she later sat close to me).
Rejection - At one point I tried to make a move. This was while she wasn't talking to me (which in retrospect, was a poor choice) and she reacted poorly. I've read that INFJs are typically kind with their rejections, but she wasn't.
Comfort - By nature, I'm very flirty and friendly with everyone. I wonder if this scares off the INFJs in my life. If they think that I'm just being flirty and not really interested. How can I keep things fun, but still build some comfort and connection with them?
In general, I've noticed this a couple times, when an INFJ gets a little flirty they will then back off and not want to talk to me. They don't give much opportunity for me to respond before they get scared. Would love suggestions for responding to INFJ flirting without frightening them.
The background, this woman is part of my social circle. Last year we got pretty close, thought maybe she wanted to be more than friends. Then she got embarrassed, withdrew and door slammed me. A few months later she let me back into her life, but every time I've seen her since it's been intense with lots of mixed signals.
So, here are a few thoughts to comment on:
Eye-Contact/Deathstare - She makes crazy eye contact with me, looks like she wants to eat me. I watched a youtube that this isn't flirtatious just something that INFJs do. I hold it because I'm an ENTP and I know that it's just a game. I LOVE great eye-contact, so sexy. Does it mean anything, I've never seen her do it to anyone else.
Touch - She's never touched me, not in a flirty way. We've only hugged twice ever (one was an awkward side hug and the other was a very emotional time for both of us, and I had to initiate it), which is really odd from my other female friends who always want to hug. She hugs other people, but never me. In fact, the last time we were together, at one point she moved away quickly when I got too close (although she later sat close to me).
Rejection - At one point I tried to make a move. This was while she wasn't talking to me (which in retrospect, was a poor choice) and she reacted poorly. I've read that INFJs are typically kind with their rejections, but she wasn't.
Comfort - By nature, I'm very flirty and friendly with everyone. I wonder if this scares off the INFJs in my life. If they think that I'm just being flirty and not really interested. How can I keep things fun, but still build some comfort and connection with them?
In general, I've noticed this a couple times, when an INFJ gets a little flirty they will then back off and not want to talk to me. They don't give much opportunity for me to respond before they get scared. Would love suggestions for responding to INFJ flirting without frightening them.