Hmm. I understand that perhaps you were more upset by Alycone’s choice of language, and the suggestion of judging someone for not being able to muster up the courage, but although maybe I would’ve worded it differently, I agree with her. No one 'should do' anything; not everyone has the propensity to be a sensitive, thoughtful individual (although its great to come across one!) But it doesn’t make them a bad individual because they look at or handle a situation differently than you do.
And while I'd try to be understanding to those sensitive folks out there, in all honesty, it would seem incredibly odd to me if the person who’s asking me out would avoid telling me how they feel in person. After all, if I’m going date them, I would assume that we are going to be seeing each other face-to-face and not having a relationship via text messages. If they’re so nervous that they defer to what is safe, that tells me that perhaps they’re the sort of person who avoids conflict, or who would hide things from me should things get a bit uncomfortable. If I’m just getting to know them, sorry to say, I am going to be making judgments based on their actions. I'm not a mind reader; what they do and say is all I've got to go on.
Besides, in prankster’s case, it seems like the girl really does prefer face-to-face interaction. She gave him a chance to explain his feelings to her in person. I think the fact that she did that says to me that she is actually a pretty understanding individual (not to say that anyone said otherwise) and considers prankster’s feelings pretty important not to have just brushed them aside. That’s a boon in his favour, methinks.
