sleepycloud
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I came across this post while lurking typology central which really struck a chord with me:
Once I'm back home I would prefer to be infj so maybe it's just being easily overwhelmed. I tend to burn out pretty quickly and obviously can't 'accommodate' people as friendly and funnily as she can. It's not very fair to feel down over this but I have to consciously fight those negative inclinations to the point where I've given up on participating in groups altogether. Part of my resentment would be result of a fallout we had awhile ago about her misunderstanding my aloofness as uncaring (as if in contrast the Fe I express in a more subdued manner/intimate setting suddenly fails to match up) and even though I've explained it to her, I think my tendency to lock up in crowds still makes her feel uncomfortable/bored and the tension still lingers unresolvable. When we're in a social setting it's like both of us wants the other to display more compromise but she won't tone it down and I will try to distance myself.
I don't feel as jealous around other e types, I think it's more a matter of wanting Fe to be more developed, but it could be heightened because I tend to compare myself more to either best friends or people with similarities to see who's more adept at pushing their own boundaries. I don't wish to be competitive with anyone so I'm usually passive but my situation is an example of being frustrated with the extraverted counterpart of our type. I was wondering if anyone here has experienced something similar?
This has been bugging me for quite awhile, I can't stand being around my enfj friend when she's around others (in fact I'm pretty much only an obvious friend of hers when we spend time one on one) because we share similar values but she seems to have more success exerting them, as if having the same ego-syntonic functions makes me feel as though she's a more appealing version of me. Of course I wouldn't trade my individuality for the world since it's pointless basing self-worth on fundamental differences but I guess I'm yet to grow out of having strong emotional reactions regarding a sense of social inadequacy. Plus I've scored enfj on those 'which type do you want to be' tests :/Ok, my question has less to do with people feeling cool or uncool. It was just an example to ask introverts if being around the same type in extroverted version is more stressful than being around other extroverted types. I was mostly referencing it because of the anxious feeling between the matching types on the opposite sides of the I/E line.
Once I'm back home I would prefer to be infj so maybe it's just being easily overwhelmed. I tend to burn out pretty quickly and obviously can't 'accommodate' people as friendly and funnily as she can. It's not very fair to feel down over this but I have to consciously fight those negative inclinations to the point where I've given up on participating in groups altogether. Part of my resentment would be result of a fallout we had awhile ago about her misunderstanding my aloofness as uncaring (as if in contrast the Fe I express in a more subdued manner/intimate setting suddenly fails to match up) and even though I've explained it to her, I think my tendency to lock up in crowds still makes her feel uncomfortable/bored and the tension still lingers unresolvable. When we're in a social setting it's like both of us wants the other to display more compromise but she won't tone it down and I will try to distance myself.
I don't feel as jealous around other e types, I think it's more a matter of wanting Fe to be more developed, but it could be heightened because I tend to compare myself more to either best friends or people with similarities to see who's more adept at pushing their own boundaries. I don't wish to be competitive with anyone so I'm usually passive but my situation is an example of being frustrated with the extraverted counterpart of our type. I was wondering if anyone here has experienced something similar?
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