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Your Father

Discussion in 'Relationships and Sociology' started by TK*, Mar 17, 2009.

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  2. Absent or Addicted to alcohol/drugs

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    Well, we talked about mothers, how about your fathers?
     
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    Both my parents are pretty awesome.
     
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    My father...I have a graphic novel in mind for the man. I understand him more in hindsight, and I have compassion tinged with pity for him and what he tried to do in my life. He could only do what he could do, and he was the best father he knew to be.

    I think I was just starting to understand him a little more when I turned 19, and that's the year he passed away. But I do know that he lived a double life, and I do know that some of my relatives were trying to protect me too much. I still don't know every story about him - but I'd like to.
     
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    I'm sorry to hear that, arby.

    :(

    Your relatives probably wanted to save you from getting hurt.
     
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    I know they did, TK, and they meant well. But my father's side of the family has always been one big secret - so I only know a few relatives, and some have already passed away.

    But no biggie: It is what it is, and I'm not too upset by it any more.
     
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    My dad was ok most of the time...but wow this is hard to type...or say...or think...

    I dont really know how to say it...

    he used to touch me...and show himself to me
    he would ask me to watch porn with him

    UGH..
     
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    My Father: overly bossy.
     
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    My dad is an ex-rage-aholic. I used to think of his as both a monster and a king when I was a kid. He terrified me, but I never stopped loving him and I always knew that there was some hidden goodness in him. Now he's an old dude and much more mellow, much less a belligerent control freak. I think that because he was my dad, I have gained the ability to unconditionally see good in all people.. Well, either that's an ability, or I'm extremely naieve.
     
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    rageahol is my fav drink.
     
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    Everyone makes fun of me when I use the term rage-a-holic. But I still think it's valid, you insensitive hag.
    lol.
     
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    ISFJ Tower of Strength. But the tower is mostly build underground, about 80 sub-floors and 5 levels above ground.
     
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    My dad... less then glamaours. He is an unhealthy ESTJ. In a nutshell, very controling and closed minded. I have talked about him so much in the past that I dont feel like writing a whole page. Nevertheless, you could call him the "free will and idea police".
     
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    I heard my dad had a good sense of humor, and was good with people, so F somewhere in there maybe? I've never met him but it wasn't cause he ditched he passed away two weeks after I was born.
     
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    I don't know if a "tower" of strength but my father is an extreme INTJ (extreme as in highly introverted to such a point that he has "people" phobia and highly T)
     
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    My dad is (I haven't seen or heard from him for 2/3 of my life) an estj with what I suspect to be some major mental health issues, as he left me and my two brothers to be supported solely by my mom. Fortunately, she's a smart and well-read woman with a nice job at the time so we got along well enough. She must have a penchant for estjs because she married another with a scary presence ten years ago.

    But living without that one "dad" has been really tough in this life. Without someone who takes my thoughts and feelings seriously, lots of mistakes were made and lessons were learned by landing flat on my face.

    I went to see an uncle (another infp) last summer, who gave me a rich list of details concerning my dad. He always wore pressed clothing, with jeans, jewelry, and a thick black mustache. Intimidating presence.

    I have to take this moment aside to thank my parents for these really confusing genes, especially my loving pops.
     
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    *HUGS*
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    I guess he is normal.
     
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    Dad has some anger problems and we mostly clash. He's probably ESFJ.
     
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    My dad is here but at the same was is so much involved in my as much as he use to be (Guess he that aged where I became a renter then a son) but other than we sometimes rarely talk these days but we don't on eachother nerves...still.
     
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