Sir
Regular Poster
- MBTI
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- 6w5
Just to add a bit more on my views:
My way of forgiveness does not automatically lead to trusting people again, but rather a deeper understanding of each other.
The trust level may reset but the deeper understanding of each other allows for the development of a much stronger bond and level of trust than the bond and trust that existed before they were destroyed. It is up to the two people to decide whether or not they want to risk this.
They may or may not "fuck up" again(I feel drained from trying to look at this objectively because it requires me to go more into detail so I'm going to let my ego take part of this post, I feel it's only fair to try and see it from my point of view objectively so you're equally drained ). But I strongly believe if you repeat the process of forgiveness each time, the bond of trust becomes stronger and the fuckups become less damaging because the person fucking up will become a more well-rounded person and take discretion to avoid fucking up and the person who was fucked up will gain a deeper understanding of why the other person fucked up. And if they do fuck up worse than before, communication between the two was probably not present as much as it should have been despite the higher capability of understanding in stronger bonds of trusts. OR it was PURELY an accident, not the same thing as a mistake, and it is up to the person who suffered to accept that.
I apologize if cursing is seen as naive and ignorant around here, I feel like being blunt right now because explaining things in depth with a better vocabulary can be draining (like I mentioned earlier) because it requires me to think about the right word to use while also conveying the idea that is in my head.
My way of forgiveness does not automatically lead to trusting people again, but rather a deeper understanding of each other.
The trust level may reset but the deeper understanding of each other allows for the development of a much stronger bond and level of trust than the bond and trust that existed before they were destroyed. It is up to the two people to decide whether or not they want to risk this.
They may or may not "fuck up" again(I feel drained from trying to look at this objectively because it requires me to go more into detail so I'm going to let my ego take part of this post, I feel it's only fair to try and see it from my point of view objectively so you're equally drained ). But I strongly believe if you repeat the process of forgiveness each time, the bond of trust becomes stronger and the fuckups become less damaging because the person fucking up will become a more well-rounded person and take discretion to avoid fucking up and the person who was fucked up will gain a deeper understanding of why the other person fucked up. And if they do fuck up worse than before, communication between the two was probably not present as much as it should have been despite the higher capability of understanding in stronger bonds of trusts. OR it was PURELY an accident, not the same thing as a mistake, and it is up to the person who suffered to accept that.
I apologize if cursing is seen as naive and ignorant around here, I feel like being blunt right now because explaining things in depth with a better vocabulary can be draining (like I mentioned earlier) because it requires me to think about the right word to use while also conveying the idea that is in my head.
Last edited: