Why do I avoid doing things with people when I want a lasting frienship so bad?

[April]

For me that was a blessing not a curse...

For me, nothing is ever "either/or". It's always a mixture of both. It may be only a small percentage of one thing over the other but it's still a mixture.

So yes, at times I loved the solitude. But then when I needed their company, I couldn't be with them.

That's me, wishy washy as ever.

 

[Midnight Harlequin]

For me, nothing is ever "either/or". It's always a mixture of both. It may be only a small percentage of one thing over the other but it's still a mixture.

So yes, at times I loved the solitude. But then when I needed their company, I couldn't be with them.

That's me, wishy washy as ever.

I get what you mean...

 

[Jennifer Kirkpatrick]

Hi your post resonated with me as I'm just the same. It's certainly an INFJ tendency due to our perfectionism.

 

[April]

Hi your post resonated with me as I'm just the same. It's certainly an INFJ tendency due to our perfectionism.

Well I am very much so a perfectionist lol.

 

[Pin]

Your routine might be too busy to be a social-butterfly. That's fine if what you want out of life matters to you more.

Quality over quantity is best when it comes to friends.

I actually intend to gain new friends now. I feel like you'll naturally gain friends by advancing through life.

 

[April]

@Pin I've spent loads of time in my room wishing I had said yes to someone or invited someone to do something, I just... Don't. Lol

With school though, you're right, I don't have much time. You're also right about gaining friends as you advance through life. I must be open to those opportunities and I fear that saying yes when I'm scared to is the only way out of it.

 

[Midnight Harlequin]

@Pin I've spent loads of time in my room wishing I had said yes to someone or invited someone to do something, I just... Don't. Lol

With school though, you're right, I don't have much time. You're also right about gaining friends as you advance through life. I must be open to those opportunities and I fear that saying yes when I'm scared to is the only way out of it.

Be brave...