Recently I have spent a lot of time describing the INFJ typology to some close friends and a few random people as well. The thing is that every time I find myself describing it differently. Not distorting the image or description, but giving a different example of what it is like to be an INFJ.
I recently made a post on another site:
"As an INFJ it is hard always wanting to grasp an understanding of the world and all it's complexities because when you find out you will never gain certain understandings it crushes you like nothing else can. You are having your heart's desire ripped away from you and you cannot understand why. You keep digging for an explanation and all you find are further questions to be answered without any idea as to why there is no answer to your original question. You get lost in your head and lost in the motives of the world. You end up withdrawing from everything around you because you can't look at someone without seeing a flaw that you wish they would fix. You become cynical and pessimistic about everything going on around you because you have to have something to hold on to for yourself, so you choose to be the one who does nothing that could hurt anyone. Nothing that could save anyone. You choose to only save yourself and only hurt yourself. That's how I fell into a nasty addiction to psychiatric medications for all sorts of disorders I did not have. I got so tired of having to find an understanding for everything I did. I just wanted to be able to sit quietly in a room and not have anything on my mind. I wanted to be grey, to blend in with everyone else. To not have to worry about what someone really meant when they said things. I wanted a way out and I found it for 8 years. Now, being clean and sober is the only way of life I accept. I know that if I ever relapse I will end up six feet under because I have no will left to be nothing. I have to be something. So I fight for it every day.
As an INFJ, I struggle with things that have no logical explanation or at least some type of understanding as to "why". I don't necessarily want answers, sometimes I just desire another angle to look at a situation or another perspective that I had not considered.
All in all, being an INFJ is intoxicating."
Which led me to creating this thread...
And now I am here to ask you, what is the most intoxicating part about being an INFJ?
It can be a positive or a negative trait or ability.
My answer:
The ability to know someone's emotional state better than they do. The ability to essentially "walk" into their mind and dissect them and who they are without having to ask. I love being able to find out so much about someone without having to ask for permission because I do not like awkward social encounters. The truly intoxicating part is the self control I can either choose to have, or choose to relinquish. In a way I essentially hold the power to either ruin them or save them, humiliate them or love them.
I recently made a post on another site:
"As an INFJ it is hard always wanting to grasp an understanding of the world and all it's complexities because when you find out you will never gain certain understandings it crushes you like nothing else can. You are having your heart's desire ripped away from you and you cannot understand why. You keep digging for an explanation and all you find are further questions to be answered without any idea as to why there is no answer to your original question. You get lost in your head and lost in the motives of the world. You end up withdrawing from everything around you because you can't look at someone without seeing a flaw that you wish they would fix. You become cynical and pessimistic about everything going on around you because you have to have something to hold on to for yourself, so you choose to be the one who does nothing that could hurt anyone. Nothing that could save anyone. You choose to only save yourself and only hurt yourself. That's how I fell into a nasty addiction to psychiatric medications for all sorts of disorders I did not have. I got so tired of having to find an understanding for everything I did. I just wanted to be able to sit quietly in a room and not have anything on my mind. I wanted to be grey, to blend in with everyone else. To not have to worry about what someone really meant when they said things. I wanted a way out and I found it for 8 years. Now, being clean and sober is the only way of life I accept. I know that if I ever relapse I will end up six feet under because I have no will left to be nothing. I have to be something. So I fight for it every day.
As an INFJ, I struggle with things that have no logical explanation or at least some type of understanding as to "why". I don't necessarily want answers, sometimes I just desire another angle to look at a situation or another perspective that I had not considered.
All in all, being an INFJ is intoxicating."
Which led me to creating this thread...
And now I am here to ask you, what is the most intoxicating part about being an INFJ?
It can be a positive or a negative trait or ability.
My answer:
The ability to know someone's emotional state better than they do. The ability to essentially "walk" into their mind and dissect them and who they are without having to ask. I love being able to find out so much about someone without having to ask for permission because I do not like awkward social encounters. The truly intoxicating part is the self control I can either choose to have, or choose to relinquish. In a way I essentially hold the power to either ruin them or save them, humiliate them or love them.
