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What Is a Good Man?

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    Sadly, That is NOT a title I would accept with open arms lol. Painfully, I don't fit in with most here. And I apologize for reading you wrong, @acd.
     
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    You're so awesome, Siku.

    Immediate friends forever.
    I claim you.
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    A good man is caring, honest, open, communicative, trustworthy, thankful, helpful, responsible, and respectful.

    Ladies and gentlemen,
    Be a good man. ❤️
     
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    I really hope not. =|


    I'm just generally speaking, but most of us here don't really fit in anywhere. That's a lot of the reason why the majority of us are even here.

    Don't let it be painful. Embrace the awkward. Lol.






    Don't forget to smile as much as possible today.
     
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    That dude will get absolutely fucked, guaranteed.
     
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    Yeah.

    Maybe he will be crucified.

    I like to think he's out there.

    I'll meet him if I haven't yet.
     
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    Or perhaps its possible to have these qualities without becoming a target, as long as they are not joined by naivety.

    Often, though, trustworthy people are trusting, too.
     
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    A lesson that seems to be stuck on repeat for me. Ugh.

    You're right.
     
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    I think a good man(or woman)is someone who values the wellbeing of others just as much or more than him or herself.
     
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    No!

    This thread is about men.
     
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    Women are men.


    C'mon guys. Get it together.

    :p ❤️
     
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    Ok so I made it half-way through reading this entire thread, and I'm sorry I found most, if not all the responses extremely PC, generic, and downright lies. The only post that seems honest and make the most sense is what @Pin said. Outside of purely subjective and personal wishes of what a "good man" is, I think both men and women see qualities of good men as being successful and healthy. It also doesn't hurt to be a "family man". Again this is just general blanket observation. I have no idea what most women like or think of "good men". I hear all kinds of stuff and see the opposite. But I think @Pin hit it on the nail here.

    Shit, now I just have to say it but...

    @Pin is right.

    lol.
     
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    I admire INFJ's noble idealism.

    There was a time I wasn't a realist. I was much younger and I saw certain people as larger than life. That said, I still believe in heroes.

    I see the power of everyday people.
     
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    I think being all of those things despite being aware of the risk of hurt or being vulnerable makes for good character. Not that anyone doesn't have good character if they have been hurt and have closed themselves off from that side of themselves. Maybe it's about overcoming that and learning to better discern motives without becoming or staying cynical.


    But I love this quote:


    "Listen to me, your body is not a temple. Temples can be destroyed and desecrated. Your body is a forest—thick canopies of maple trees and sweet scented wildflowers sprouting in the underwood. You will grow back, over and over, no matter how badly you are devastated."

    Beau Taplin
     
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    This is exactly how I understood it. Be good, kind, trustworthy, etc, but know that not everyone deserves that type of effort and energy.
     
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    This is just a thought that popped in me bean... Maybe it doesn't matter what anyone thinks qualifies as a good man, rather what matters is attachment styles, good or shit modeling by parents or guardians during childhood, presence of trauma or not, etc. A man or woman may be able to articulate what they think a good man should be, but that may also fly right out the window during a close intimate relationship or marriage.
     
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