Would you really want to? It's not that much fun to be Te dominant to be honest with you.
it's not much fun lacking Te and being perpetually disorganized and pressed for time either >< all NTJs i've known have been great at accomplishing things.
Would you really want to? It's not that much fun to be Te dominant to be honest with you.
I.e. I respond to this thread because I feel some sort of release in talking about this. Not to help you or anyone else, not really. It's just because it does something for me, emotionally.
I.e. I'm nice to people because of how it makes ME feel. Not because it's great for them, not really. It makes me feel good, and that's why I do it.
So your intentions are oriented towards self-interest, but others incidentally benefit anyway.
Thought I was quite clear that it's all about self-interest. And I have a hard time believing that others aren't the same.
It's not that much fun to be Te dominant to be honest with you.
The world works better when everyone looks out for their own self interest.
This vaguely reminds me of Adam Smith's invisible hand argument.
Would you really want to? It's not that much fun to be Te dominant to be honest with you.
[MENTION=3122]Nevermore[/MENTION]; How so? I am interested to hear from someone who has a good and personal understanding of the function.
Going with the flow is something that requires work rather than relaxation and it's not much fun to lack a natural rapport with most people. The world favours those who get along well over skill in many cases. There are times when I want to be very emotionally expressive with someone and in the moment I think I am being so, but in reflection I just came across as awkward or fake.
From the outside it seems like a golden pass to be able to live your life without caring about societal expectations and to shake off the shackles of emotional manipulation. But at the same time it's hard to live within society but not actually be a part of it, in terms of acceptance. I am emotional and at times insecure but it all gets locked away behind this facade of logic. It hurts me to not be able to have the ability to easily express how I am feeling to a partner or a friend in a way they understand. People tend to think I am rock solid emotionally and come to me with their problems but are unwilling to listen to me if I have one. I usually get a response something like....'well you always know what to do, or you'l get over it'.
Going with the flow is something that requires work rather than relaxation and it's not much fun to lack a natural rapport with most people. The world favours those who get along well over skill in many cases. There are times when I want to be very emotionally expressive with someone and in the moment I think I am being so, but in reflection I just came across as awkward or fake.
From the outside it seems like a golden pass to be able to live your life without caring about societal expectations and to shake off the shackles of emotional manipulation. But at the same time it's hard to live within society but not actually be a part of it, in terms of acceptance. I am emotional and at times insecure but it all gets locked away behind this facade of logic. It hurts me to not be able to have the ability to easily express how I am feeling to a partner or a friend in a way they understand. People tend to think I am rock solid emotionally and come to me with their problems but are unwilling to listen to me if I have one. I usually get a response something like....'well you always know what to do, or you'l get over it'.
what kind of response are you really looking for though?
When Te is dominant, what does the thinking pattern look like? I always figured it was more task-oriented, but I'm curious how it would look like in practice. Does anyone have examples of Te moments or Te thinking?
what kind of response are you really looking for though?
See as an INFJ, we are theoretically good actors and our trickster function is Te, if you're using shadow function theory. We innately perceive Te as tricky, so we tell jokes in that mode. Even if we don't possess Te for real, we can act it out and get a feel for what it is, I believe, without actually using it.
Can you...explain more about this? What do you mean by the logic behind those emotions? What would be considered fluffiness and comfort, as opposed to giving solutions or brainstorming?I found that helping them find the logic behind those emotions makes NTJs comfortable and at ease when expressing them or when they confronted by a new kind of feelings.
With my INTJ friend, there's an established level of trust. If he ever feels uneasy about something or even extremely happy, he has no qualms expressing that (even if awkwardly) because there is no prejudice or expectations to live up to on my part.
Also, offering comfort (aka fluffiness) may not always work for NTJ as it might work for NFJ. They can find it annoying sometimes, if it isn't accompanied by some sort of solution to whatever problem they have. However, I am only generalizing here (based on my personal experience), but there can always be exceptions.
J? Fun? In what universe?
In real life not rainbow robotic unicorn world.