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What are your greatest fears?

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"FEAR" right, ok...

How do people confront the fears they've listed?




Disclaimer: I was very, very, very, very young
 
Lurker said:
How do people confront the fears they've listed?

A little bit every day.

Disclaimer: I was very, very, very, very young

It's alright. I used to think a "tornado" was a giant "tomato". Just couldn't figure out what people were so afraid of.
 
Lurker said:
How do people confront the fears they've listed?

My fear is being alone ... on a smaller scale I try to always have something to watch, listen to, or read. And on a larger scale I always surround myself with friends and family and I really try to nurture those relationships that are most important to me so that those people wont ever leave me. Even both of my ex husbands would come to my aid if I asked.
 
Walking alone by myself in the dark
I deal with this by knowing how to expertly break or pummel any bone or pressure point
Fear of car accidents
I drive as safely as i possibly can and stay very attentive
Meeting new people
I do it anyway


Really im not afraid of much....Scary movies make me jump...but im not afraid of it...
 
My greatest fear is that even if i'm prescribed ritalin, or am cured of ADD, that I'll never make my mark on the world.
 
Still working on sorting out fears . . . ultimate fear? Marriage. Whether he's awesome or not. For that matter, I also fear dating . . .
 
My biggest fear is not being able to provide for my family (when I get one).
 
I guess it's not being able to fix all of the world's major problems befor I die.
Not being able to learn everything I want.
To have nature completely destroyed.(Urbanized world)
Lack of compassionate people.
Of total darkness when I die.


ShaiGar said:
My greatest fear is that even if i'm prescribed ritalin, or am cured of ADD, that I'll never make my mark on the world.
Yeah I have the sort of feeling except its I want to do my part in the world

Kwistalline said:
Still working on sorting out fears . . . ultimate fear? Marriage. Whether he's awesome or not. For that matter, I also fear dating . . .
I really do wish I could find some one though. I sortof given up in looking and I'll just wait for some one to show up or look for someone later.


Stone said:
My biggest fear is not being able to provide for my family (when I get one).
I guess I have a fear that I won't be good enough to have kids or even be a leader.
 
Stone said:
My biggest fear is not being able to provide for my family (when I get one).


My fear is like Stone's in a way. I have a large family and I fear not being to protect them well enough. I am the family heart. Without me they would blow away with the four winds to far away places on the planet. It is good to be together and helping, lifting each others hearts up, walking along life's roads with each other. I don't think they agree with that idea.

I think I am too old to socialize with so many young people. It seems to me that most of the posts reflect youth and only that spot on the round of progression. There is so much to learn and do.

Stone, you will "get" your family and will find great happiness. You will be more blessed than most men. You will be a wonderful father and husband. Learn what will make your wife happy and your children good, and live so that they will be, and you will conquer your fear.
 
I changed my mind I do have a greatest fear!

its loosing my child (as in death)....(not that anything has happened its just something that finally came to a realization)
 
I have had to face a few of my worst fears over the years and you know what? I survived somehow. Shocked the heck out of me!!! Yes, life was never the same, and never will be....but strange things can happen in the midst of the greatest catastrophes, things that give a glimmer of hope and let us silently know that somehow "all is well." Very odd.
 
gokartride, that is what I feel when I'm in grief or around someone else who is grieving. When I've mentioned the blessings you receive in grief people think I'm crazy but the peace you find in it it amazing.
 
entyqua said:
I changed my mind I do have a greatest fear!

its loosing my child (as in death)....(not that anything has happened its just something that finally came to a realization)

I know exactly how you feel entyqua. I nearly lost my daughter in her junior year of high-school because her pediatrician would not pay attention. I took her to a specialist and the specialist called the pediatrician and put the fear in Mr. Knows all pediatrician. I had to face the fact that she could die. She looked like someone just released from a concentration camp. When she was recovered from her ordeal we built her up physically and emotionally with lots of food and lots of love.

The only sure protection is to say your prayers or have one in your heart all the time. Heavenly Father loves you and your baby. He will show His love if you show yours to Him. You will also learn that there are worse things than death, for you or your loved ones. I don't see anything bad happening to you in your family life to come. Remember that the best were saved for last for a reason.
 
I don't fear that much, but what little I do I make up for in intensity.

I fear losing control. I must have control. Mainly, I need control of myself, not others, but my frustration with being unable to force them to at least want control (I find most people don't) does show through. I have had phobias that relate to this main, deep fear, such as:

-Stroke
-Airplanes
-Seizures
-Panic
-Sudden onset psychoses or schizophrenia
-Tooth loss
-Elevators
-Vomiting (emetophobia - less myself than others, though, oddly)
-Tornadoes and high winds (weak, but still there)
-Being stuck in a small tunnel, room, cave, etc. (claustrophobia)

I also fear losing more family at this point, which is valid for me.

Other than that, I just have the basic reactionary fears when things happen, but that's just instinct.
 
- Fear of being stupid, mediocre, unintelligent
- Fear of being thought of as too conventional
- Fear of being unimaginative
- Fear of losing control over my life
- Fear of not understanding my unique identity
- Fear of being controlled by someone
- Fear of being rejected
- Fear of failure
- Fear of being ashamed in front of many people

I think I have many fears that drive me forward. I will come back if I have more.
 
That I will take to many risk and ruin my life, or that I won't and end up regreting my life.
 
I've had an irrational and terrible fear of losing my parents who are starting to grow old (mid-late 60s). But it was rather linked with me becoming an adult (I'm 21). It's getting better now.

Also, fear of having an autistic child (my brother is autistic and it's genetic). This is not a problem for me now but I know if I do want kids one day it will be an immense fear.