Yeah he is aware of it and said he would work on it without me promoting him so we will see how that goes. In terms of non performance areas I've been lucky to have a lot of sex partners who check to see if something feels good or not as they go so I realized most men are pretty good with instruction as long as you tell them nicely or physically show them what you're asking for. I figure, you both have to learn what each other likes, you're new to each other's bodies. I suppose I could also be proactive and ask him if he likes what I'm doing. I find that if both parties are setting the tone "oh do you like this what would you like better" you can skip the feelings of inadequacy because it's not about if you're good or not but rather the unique likes and dislikes of the other person.