Taking care of people

Yes, it always goes unappreciated and I used to care for others so much, I'd get taken advantage of. Those days are over.

Okay, easier said than done... I need to be needed. *sniff*

 

It is when someone begins taking advantage of it, knowingly or possibly unknowingly, the levee starts to break. Remove the "cheerful" from the giving and it starts running downhill. There we are, head in the clouds, and someone has to try and rain on our parade.
Rest of the time I like it better unknown.
There are those that think we do too much and try to stop us, not understanding the joy they bring us when working with them.
When my motives are questioned I can get a bit irritated. However, mine is a helping hand to lend and lend it I do much easier with trust.
I think it but one of our roles in the greater scheme of things and feel happy about it.

 

Do you take care of people as a sort of investment, or just because they are there (according to potential, or according to need)?
I have some difficulty with taking care of abnormally high-maintenance people: some people will not progress or be productive no matter how much of your own life you put into the process, and therefore the time and effort can feel like a waste.

 

That's the thing TLM, I think(well, at least in my case) that we can be the savior of those people and be there for them in those situations. If there's a person that needs my help I will selflessly try to help them regardless if I think that there won't be no progress in their behavior.However, if they do get better that is the greatest feelings of accomplishment I can ever get.

 

This. I work the exact same way. I know I sometimes go too 'far' in this. I can usually feel the needs of people so easily, and I really want to take care of them, because I think most of the time I can help them. I'm quick to understand what someone needs in order to feel better.

 

I've kind of nearly gotten over the trying too hard to help thing, but it still comes out now and again when people aren't very nice towards my friends or family. I tend to be over protective, especially of family, so I'm fairly sure that people take me for granted because they know that I'll try to help.
But, as you know, help is not always appreciated and/or needed and I've been told to go away several times. I find it difficult to just stand by and do nothing though >>"

 

I have more of a natural instinct to help people, not take care of them. They could be seen as one in the same though. If someone is sick, I am usually the first person to say "oh! I have a gazillion vitamins in my room, I'll go get you some!", and I proceed to come back with like 9 pills, haha. I also have a caring response if I see someone very upset or they are crying. However, like with everything, if I don't like the vibe from a person I will likely have an adversion to wanting to help them.

 

Taking care of implies that the person is pretty much helpless without you. You take care of invalids and babies.

But I also have an instinct to help, or encourage, or facillitate self-helpfulness.

If "taking care of people" annoys you, don't do it. Maybe distance yourself a bit. People aren't going to starve or go crazy without you.

 

Do you encourage him to get professional help? Do you point out that he may have some problems? Other than that and listening to him, there's probably not much else you can do. And stressing about him can't be good for anyone involved.

 

I practice that tough kind of love where a friend calls you up at 2am crying and you say "Go to god damn fucking bed. Love you hun but call me in the morning."

I think people should take care of themselves. Really, all picking someone up out of a ditch again and again does is enable them. There are always going to be those people out there who enjoy taking care of other people, but for me, I'd rather just worry about my own needs. And now I'm hungry.

 

i don't tend to take care of people unless it is necessary and they have no one else to turn to.

i like helping them take care of themselves.

 

hey, thats exactly right.

Me too rainrise.

 

I like creating opportunities and helping the people around me to realize their potential and be stronger for knowing me. That includes giving them the opportunity to develop skills that enable them to be more independent. People are not by nature autonomous no matter how much we enjoy pretending we are because of our values of individualism. We each have different skill sets and societies by nature tend to delineate different tasks amongst its members. By specializing in different tasks we are able to help one another achieve more than we could alone. This is important to me on the personal and social levels.

 

I like helping people. I always have and always wanted to. No matter how difficult things are going for me, I will drop everything to go help a friend. On one hand, I guess I hope that one day they'll do the same for me, but on the other hand, I neither ask for or want help.

Maybe I like to delude myself into thinking I'm the stronger person. But obviously, I'm not.

I need to stop that.

 

XD You can take care of me if you don't mind me taking care of you too, and providing a library.

 

Sometimes I feel like mother hen. I always worry about how other people are doing. I'm naturally nurturing and I've always felt this burden/responsibility to want to take care of everyone. I can always empathize with people and read emotions pretty well and then I feel this need to want to make their problems go away. I stumbled across life path numbers a few months ago and found mine; it all makes a bit more sense now. And funny thing is that sometimes people see me as distant and cold on the outside when on the inside I'm very caring.

-Not that I'm always feeling sorry for people and trying to save everyone. Obviously, it depends on the situation at hand. I was mainly referring to people with big problems and situations, for the most part, not those who're are able to do something about their situations but are just sitting. But if I'm able to help someone in any way -big or small issue at hand, I'll do that.