Constantly we are face with moral decisions, and ultimately we, upon self-examination, are presented with a dilemma. Do we want to be relatively good people, who do not deceive others, who do not live in falsehood, who do not fear what others think, or do we want to be relatively bad people, who deceive others, lie, cheat, and live in constant fear of pain and losing security. Simply put, do we want to give in to the corruption in the system and exploit others out of fear, or do we want to fit into the system only if we can find a position that is in line with our ideals?
I am wondering this because I get the impression, mostly from my experiences, that INFJs are fairly idealistic people and fairly self-aware people, and we try, more so than others I think, to live by these ideals. Of course, you can make the argument that our ideals are simply different from the ideals of others, but of course you realize that our ideals tend to place greater emphasis on others due to our tendency to internalize things.
Of course, this can apply to all types, not just INFJ, but I was wondering if it might apply to INFJs in particular. You see, I am having this kind of dilemma, and I have for a long time. I find it very difficult to fit into any human system (which is a relationship) willingly, and if given the choice I usually opt out. This is because I often see the corruption in it. I am not particularly involved in politics or religion. I find the business world repulisve, and I recently refused a job that would have required me to lie to people (of course I am at luxury to do this, many people really need the moeny). I also find it difficult to go into relationships knowing that relationships are power struggles. So you can see my problem.
So what I have been wondering- my theory- is that perhaps the reason there are so few INFJs is that over the course of thousands of years, as humanity became particularly more violent and corrupt, people who have this kind of self-awareness and inclination for social justice stopped surviving as well relative to other types. I realize that even if we make up on 1% of the population, that is over 70,000,000 INFJs world wide, but that is still relatively less.
My question is basically this: Are YOU less willing than others to do something that we would essentially describe as evil (exploit others, begin wars, steal, lie, cheat, murder, whatever it takes) to get ahead. I am wondering if we are too weak to take a fair share of the pie, so we are getting left behind because we care about others.
And we all face this decision of what kind of person we want to be, even if the cost is themselves. For me, it is fairly simple- I would rather die than go against my ideals. What about you?
[Yes, I left out the issue of involvement with others, but I don't really know how to address that.]
I am wondering this because I get the impression, mostly from my experiences, that INFJs are fairly idealistic people and fairly self-aware people, and we try, more so than others I think, to live by these ideals. Of course, you can make the argument that our ideals are simply different from the ideals of others, but of course you realize that our ideals tend to place greater emphasis on others due to our tendency to internalize things.
Of course, this can apply to all types, not just INFJ, but I was wondering if it might apply to INFJs in particular. You see, I am having this kind of dilemma, and I have for a long time. I find it very difficult to fit into any human system (which is a relationship) willingly, and if given the choice I usually opt out. This is because I often see the corruption in it. I am not particularly involved in politics or religion. I find the business world repulisve, and I recently refused a job that would have required me to lie to people (of course I am at luxury to do this, many people really need the moeny). I also find it difficult to go into relationships knowing that relationships are power struggles. So you can see my problem.
So what I have been wondering- my theory- is that perhaps the reason there are so few INFJs is that over the course of thousands of years, as humanity became particularly more violent and corrupt, people who have this kind of self-awareness and inclination for social justice stopped surviving as well relative to other types. I realize that even if we make up on 1% of the population, that is over 70,000,000 INFJs world wide, but that is still relatively less.
My question is basically this: Are YOU less willing than others to do something that we would essentially describe as evil (exploit others, begin wars, steal, lie, cheat, murder, whatever it takes) to get ahead. I am wondering if we are too weak to take a fair share of the pie, so we are getting left behind because we care about others.
And we all face this decision of what kind of person we want to be, even if the cost is themselves. For me, it is fairly simple- I would rather die than go against my ideals. What about you?
[Yes, I left out the issue of involvement with others, but I don't really know how to address that.]
hahahaha so ironic ain't it? First I love all humanity with my huge ability to empathize, but then I get hurt and terrorized by the truth of things, and get frustrated. 
