I often do it.
True. I do multiple fact checks if I really need to engage in long term.
The problem about smutty book is: my intuition sometimes say: dont burn it yet. I feel there is something in there, may be in some pages inside there is a map that will guide you to find treasures? So I when I decide to keep it, I will open all pages even though it is costly and time consuming.
I do give people a harder try than my T friends, coz I value intentions than the logic. (Good when I was a mentor, editor, but in business? There is no free lunch (I also hate this phrase).
I.e. my T friend said: "that guy is just taking advantage of your kindness."
Me: "One day we will need him/her. I think what he asked is normal. And also I see that it is a good thing if I planted good seed first. I dont care if he would repay or not."
Friend: "Lift up your ego man, you are often being just too kind. I am worried you will get exhausted."
Me: "From being a sympathetic person? Never. Also how many times did you use me to ask a favor from people who you dont like and you know they also dislike you? It is a safety net dude. You will never know. But yes, keep this good and bad cop thingy at play, that s OK. You have been a good devil's advocate so far. Thank you.
(OR may be this is my INFJ brain: no friction the better, why count all the small favor? And Caring to others more and less caring to self is a noble thing? -- I hate cliche words btw).
Friend: "I am just worried you overspend your time when we have other focus to do. You just cannot stop anytime you like to help people with flat tires on the side of a high way when you have a plane to catch."
Me: "I know what I am doing"
In many times the psychos know I am also a psycho. When a big cat meet another big cat, they tend to avoid on fighting, because the results would be deep scars and a quick match, unless it is about territorial pride.
My problem is: it doesnt feel right, but when my logic persuades me: "What if that person was right? Would you dare taking the risk? Usually I will say. I will take the risk.
OR
"I know he/she overstated in here and there, but I still see a little potential. A little bit bluffing is OK, I can forgive that. I know the tit-for-tat for all of those. I know what is the prize I am after.
Friend: Not worth it. People like that will give us a hard time.
Me: If noone can unlock opportunity from the guy, then may be I would.
Friend: Wasting time
Me: How many times did we win projects coz I won somebody's heart?
Friend: Ok try it dude, but dont overspend your energy. It is you I am worrying about. Mr. last man standing.
Me: I am fine (with exhausted look)
Vice versa:
Usually my friend is also afraid to let me handle a deep friction, coz they know when I have justified the friend-turn-foe has done something really bad, especially when the impact is systemic, I will do what INFJs are good at: we nuke our enemies (no missiles, no warplanes, no tanks, no bullets)
Instinct mostly correct, but when it fails. It really disrupts self confidence.
(Me to myself) How did I didn't see that? What a fool you are. You are the dumbest man in the world.
Logic: I told you (annoyed). Technically the numbers look bad, but you were overconfidence.
Thank you I will find the epub version.
Bottomline: over confidence sometimes is my biggest problem, but partners said they know I would be the one holding the light when others have shut it down. It is a good blend for the team. It is just costly if my instict weren't right.
I do think about it many times, the INFJ way are sometimes costly, but the reward is big when you proved it, because you are different to others. Yes, I am a greater risk taker even though I do my calculated risk assesment.
I do often get people to comment me like this:
I know why I want to do this with you, you are different with others.
Me to myself: Dude, people notice your lies, I just have a bigger tolerance rate than others, if you failed me too then noone can handle you anymore and I think you know this too: you will lose more if you screw up with me.
Sometimes I do feel like the lender of the last resort when I need to bailout someone. It is costly, but when they recover, it will be good long term investment OR the entire nation is collapsed coz I bailed out the wrong bank.
My friend often said: I noticed you can dive deeper and longer than the others, is it save?
Me: Yes, the odd is either you die, or you find good treasures down the sea.
Or may be an INFJ is not made to fit in the business world? People say you have to be mean in the business.
I was often challenged when it comes to tough decision, I often hear: it shouldnt be you who will do it. you wouldnt have the heart to do it, you are just too kind. (In hate this comment)
In many times, I do realize I overburden the business, but when some finance guy said are you sure we cant save more? Nope, I want people working with us feel appreciated. If you dont like this way, let s close the business.
Is it really a businessman saying? Or it is a social worker motto? Again, are we fit into the business world? Anyone can give some great INFJ famous business people? Did they really harness their INFJ character or they hide it?
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