I have mentioned this ENTP friend of mine several times. He is a very popular DJ/producer in the house music community, so he knows loads of people.
It seems as if every time we are out together, there are random people coming up to me and saying:
"Be careful with him."
"He's not what he appears."
"He's not a nice guy."
We are not in a relationship. But it may appear that way since we do sometimes attend functions together. And I pretty much know the scoop on him because we have been very honest with each other.
Anyway, when we first met, he told me that this would happen, and the first time it did happen, I told him. He appeared so full of angst that I've chosen not to say anything after that first time. I don't know. In a way, I think he should know because I don't like people who smile in folks' faces and then talk about them behind their backs. But then, I don't like seeing him sad either, so I don't wanna say anything to kill his normally happy mood.
I don't get people. So I'm not understanding why some people I don't know would come out of nowhere and say stuff like this.
This is sort of difficult for me, so much that I've withdrawn from him a lot and it's really not fair to him or me. The whole thing is making me suspicious from a logical standpoint, but in my heart, I feel he is misunderstood.
Can anyone give me any insight into what may be going on here? This has been bugging me a bit. Thanks ahead.
It seems as if every time we are out together, there are random people coming up to me and saying:
"Be careful with him."
"He's not what he appears."
"He's not a nice guy."
We are not in a relationship. But it may appear that way since we do sometimes attend functions together. And I pretty much know the scoop on him because we have been very honest with each other.
Anyway, when we first met, he told me that this would happen, and the first time it did happen, I told him. He appeared so full of angst that I've chosen not to say anything after that first time. I don't know. In a way, I think he should know because I don't like people who smile in folks' faces and then talk about them behind their backs. But then, I don't like seeing him sad either, so I don't wanna say anything to kill his normally happy mood.
I don't get people. So I'm not understanding why some people I don't know would come out of nowhere and say stuff like this.
This is sort of difficult for me, so much that I've withdrawn from him a lot and it's really not fair to him or me. The whole thing is making me suspicious from a logical standpoint, but in my heart, I feel he is misunderstood.
Can anyone give me any insight into what may be going on here? This has been bugging me a bit. Thanks ahead.
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