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I'm beginning to question the term "introversion" - since the connotations especially based on popular misconception are often negative. It suggests a desire not to interact or engage with people or a tendency to withdraw from people and society, to be antisocial, etc. And many introverts, as clearly as this site demonstrates, are rarely many of these things even if they aren't very social irl.
I also think the word introversion has a tendency to be used intentionally or unintentionally to become a self fulfilling prophecy. Labeling ourselves as introverts, meaning imposing a particular set of traits on our behaviors or identity, as we all know, can be very limiting and restrictive.
Now, by this i don't mean we need to be or become or care about being extroverted. Instead, my point is that we are falling into the the trap of seeing ourselves in a more negative light because of all the build up of negative connotations which the term "introversion" calls to mind.
As an example, just to further clarify this point, as any other self described or tested "introvert" I like spending time alone when i feel i need to clear some head space, and recoup, but this doesn't mean that i don't like being around people. I may not like being the center of attention or like large social gatherings or crowds, but this doesn't mean i hate talking to people or engaging people about feelings or ideas. I don't think introversion means having a natural dislike for social engagement or interaction. I think it's more comfort level or where we feel naturally oriented or what feels normal for us as individuals or personalities. And here's another way to look at it - saying someone is just being a typical introvert because they don't like interacting with people, when the issue is not the interacting but the people, is not really introversion, is it? I remember in college trying to fit in with many groups, some more extroverted than others, and I felt inadequate or socially inept
because I wasn't extroverted and outgoing as they were. I felt as if something was missing in me. But now i realize that the problem wasn't me; it was as simple as i just didn't click well with that group.
So, is "introversion" really the best way to describe the personality traits we often associate with introversion? Or are we using a definition of introversion which does more harm than good to truly reflecting who we are as a type and as individuals?
I also think the word introversion has a tendency to be used intentionally or unintentionally to become a self fulfilling prophecy. Labeling ourselves as introverts, meaning imposing a particular set of traits on our behaviors or identity, as we all know, can be very limiting and restrictive.
Now, by this i don't mean we need to be or become or care about being extroverted. Instead, my point is that we are falling into the the trap of seeing ourselves in a more negative light because of all the build up of negative connotations which the term "introversion" calls to mind.
As an example, just to further clarify this point, as any other self described or tested "introvert" I like spending time alone when i feel i need to clear some head space, and recoup, but this doesn't mean that i don't like being around people. I may not like being the center of attention or like large social gatherings or crowds, but this doesn't mean i hate talking to people or engaging people about feelings or ideas. I don't think introversion means having a natural dislike for social engagement or interaction. I think it's more comfort level or where we feel naturally oriented or what feels normal for us as individuals or personalities. And here's another way to look at it - saying someone is just being a typical introvert because they don't like interacting with people, when the issue is not the interacting but the people, is not really introversion, is it? I remember in college trying to fit in with many groups, some more extroverted than others, and I felt inadequate or socially inept

So, is "introversion" really the best way to describe the personality traits we often associate with introversion? Or are we using a definition of introversion which does more harm than good to truly reflecting who we are as a type and as individuals?