Because your interpretation of his behaviours seems to be coming from a place of inherent fear and mistrust. I'm not discounting that you might be right, but it's definitely a harsh judgement of someone that you're making.
Most people mirror. Just not to this person's extent. He's very gifted at it.
I've seen him multiple places with multiple groups of people. He is always drawn to the person giving the biggest reactions, and like I said, feeds off of that. The more energy they put out the more he does. It's not specific to the person it's just what he does.
You don't have to reply to this if you lose interest or anything, but have you tried seeing his behaviours in a positive light?
If in fact he is doing this, I applaud you for recognizing it. Doesn't sound like the two of you are any kind of a match.
Yeah this is true. Best to try to distance yourself.
No, I mean, there's nothing *wrong* with him. He's definitely very sensitive and absorbs other people's emotions, like me, so in the regard we're the same. It's just that I was under the impression he could see that and therefore wanted to know me. It turns out I was wrong- he wants the energy but nothing more.
I think you guys are under the wrong impression? I was never entangled with this person, nor have we exchanged but a handful of words to one another
Oh I see what you mean. He's not interested in you as much as the dynamics of the interaction - is this at least partly what you're saying?
Well that's good to hear.
Yes. I mean the second example doesnt apply to the situation persay, but we have shared moments and it's pretty much all about the interaction. Nothing to do with me.
We do associate. Perhaps the context will help you: this is a person at an open Mike I go to every week for the past month or so. We've had brief casual conversations. He interested me, again, I couldn't quite get a read on him and that drew me in initially. But I get it now, so it's mostly lost its appeal.
Because that's exactly what he's doing? If he is performing he's looking at and gravitating towards the person in the room that gives the biggest reaction to him. It's because of the energy they're putting out, it gives him confidence to perform more and harder. It seems very straightforward and obvious to me, it's just, the open Mike I mostly saw him at has very low energy and I'm like the only person that even reacts. Everyone else is on their phones. Seeing him elsewhere with a more energetic crowd he definitely goes right to the person with the most energy. So to me, it's self evident
This is what I was concerned with.
Mixed media. He plays instruments. I wouldn't call him an actor. He isn't charismatic or anything, he has this very nervous shy energy. Even on stage, but if he gets enough feedback he breaks out of it.
Unfortunately I know from personal experience that this is a wise position, but being 'on guard' the who time generates its own problems. Gotta find that balance.
