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  1. Skoffin

    Skoffin <font color=#00EE99>She Whose Name We Do Not Speak

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    I was just curious about whether anyone here has traits they would or would not prefer in a potential mate, and more specifically if there were any traits you would consider 'deal breakers' as to whether you would date a person or not.

    Mostly I'm wondering if anyone is as picky as I am
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    Looks..I'm very flexbile...

    I'm very picky on personality however..the list can go on and on...

    The person must be Understanding,open-minded and compassionate
    The person must be imaginative, educated or at least interested in being so
    The person must be honest and respectful
    ...oh wow

    I'm such a perfectionists when it comes to relations lol..I can go on and on for longer.
     
  3. Questingpoet

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    I am way picky now when it doesn't count. I wish I were much more picky when I was younger. Traits I would avoid like the plague:

    *Unkind/No Empathy
    *Focused on the trivial, not deep thinking
    *Slob/Lazy
    *Conceited
    *Pushy/Assuming

    There are a few others, but these are the "deal breakers". (That term is a dead giveaway by the way!!)
     
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    First and foremost, they have to have the ability to hold a deep and intelectually/spiritually/emotionally stimulating conversation. They also must have passions and convictions. Snobbery and bitchiness are huge deal breakers.

    They also have to have an open heart and I have to feel I can approach them. And as shy as I can be at times, I like a lady who can be outgoing. I like to have fun!
     
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    Skoffin <font color=#00EE99>She Whose Name We Do Not Speak

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    I'm not quite sure what you mean :dizzy:



    Btw, it doesn't just have to be personality aspects, I was also thinking along the lines of what actions etc that a person may do, their situation in life etc
     
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    Perhaps I misread. My wife has been in threapy for quite a long time and that is a term that is often used. It's not one I really care for either. Sorry.........a sore subject right now, my bad.
     
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    Deal breakers are probably-
    •Insensitivity
    •Saying something harsh or rude about me personally
    •Acting distant
    •Coming on way too strongly

    I'd love for someone to be-
    •Patient, someone who is okay with taking things slowly
    •Very affectionate (once we've gotten to know each other more)
    •Understanding and compassionate
    •Flashes a bright and reassuring smile every now and then

    I know I'm probably missing a few things and someone might come up behind me and say exactly what I should have put here. XD
     
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    True comment for deal breaker. Agree.
     
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    Mine choice for someone

    Loving & caring
    Accepting
    Understanding & nice mental toughness
    Positive attitude to life
     
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    My ideal preference for someone would be;

    • Caring
    • Understanding
    • Patient
    • Hard working
    • Loyal
     
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    I'd probably be put off a female by a gandalf length beard. Is that shallow? Ok, well so long as she was really nice, it could work.
     
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    As another ENTP, I second this list. Though I'd like to add:


    • Willingness to partake in a 4-hour intellectual discussion
    • Open to new experiences
    • Not afraid to disagree
     
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    Being too nice
    Overly expressive
    Poor listener
    Insensitivity
    Arrogance
     
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    Not to mention, someone who is also good at cleaning. :m155:
     
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    You need to find yourself an elf. We love cleaning and cooking. I'm already happily married, or else I'd ask you if you have a gandalf beard.
     
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    I realized that I had a huge problem with facial hair on guys (the not groomed kind). I'm sure I wouldn't like it on a girl either. =)
     
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    I wouldn't date someone who can't take care of themself or who refuses to take care of themself (physically, emotionally, mentally, and financially.)

    I wouldn't date a liar or a control freak.


    I prefer independence and stability in all areas, and someone who is a deep worldly thinker and who is comfortable opening up and being real. A hilarious sense of humor is also a very big deal.
     
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    The list is too long o-o'
    Here are some qualities I consider a deal-breaker:

    *Liar [!]
    *Insensitive
    *Poor listener
    *Arrogance is fine as long as it's not over the edge
    *Conceited
     
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    Agree with you. :D
     
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    i need a domesticated partner...all else is negotiable.:mhula:
     
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