How many of you have gotten some variation of the following: "The reason you're having trouble getting into a relationship is that you need to put yourself out there"? Try as you might, do you have a problem "putting yourself out there"?
Today, I came to a realization about what that actually means. Here we go:
"Putting yourself out there" as interpreted by INFJs: Meeting many people, talking to them, becoming friends with them, hopefully forming deep bonds with them, entering into a communicative and loving relationship, living happily ever after.
"Putting yourself out there" as interpreted by most people in general: Acting like a slut now, worrying about the logistics of the relationship, if any, later.
Basically, I think the default for INFJ is to do things "backwards". That doesn't mean that we cannot act like sluts or that INFJ's don't act like sluts; instead, I think many of us are looking for something that other many other types (though not all) do not consider an immediate priority or a priority at all.
This is gender biased though. It is directed mostly at women while men just show up at the party or whatever and grab them (both figuratively and literally).
I really hate society.
Today, I came to a realization about what that actually means. Here we go:
"Putting yourself out there" as interpreted by INFJs: Meeting many people, talking to them, becoming friends with them, hopefully forming deep bonds with them, entering into a communicative and loving relationship, living happily ever after.
"Putting yourself out there" as interpreted by most people in general: Acting like a slut now, worrying about the logistics of the relationship, if any, later.
Basically, I think the default for INFJ is to do things "backwards". That doesn't mean that we cannot act like sluts or that INFJ's don't act like sluts; instead, I think many of us are looking for something that other many other types (though not all) do not consider an immediate priority or a priority at all.
This is gender biased though. It is directed mostly at women while men just show up at the party or whatever and grab them (both figuratively and literally).
I really hate society.