Edit: I have chosen to delete this entry because if not I cannot edit the entry after "24" hours, *Sigh*
Why can't members edit after 24/hrs?
Why can't members edit after 24/hrs?
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And for the last, and most impotant, your self-image and identity: that's the toughest of all. You are constantly trying to define yourself by those around you. How they treat you and how you relate to them. You seem to be aware of this, which is a great first step. Move beyond that step. Try to take some control of your feelings in this. Resolution with your mom will help a lot I think. I think you need to go against some of your inner urges to help, be kind, and always attach yourself to someone. Put yourself first for a while.
..... Don't lessen your importance in your own eyes because of your role in relationships. I have always been the sidekick, the conselor, the confidant, etc. It used to really bother me. Now I cherish the role. I love being the unseen force that drives things, the one who other go to when they need the really tough questions answered. Define what role you want to be, and are comfortable with in life, then love it. And Love youself. You can do it Emily. Stay strong........
Hi,
I can really relate to your story. I have almost the same story going on in my head as the one that you have written. I also have the feeling that I have to be perfect to be loved and that when I show the real me or ask something from someone, they all back of and leave me alone. I'm so affraid of being left alone!
I deeply feel with you and I want you to know that you are not allone in this, that there are other people struggling with the same issues. Being aware of the problem is a major step!
I want to give you advise but I'm still figuring it out myself. And I think questionpoet has done a great job!
Please read my last response. I am not using transference. Also, I am completely aware that nobody can make us feel worthy; we can only make ourselves feel worthy.![]()