I've noticed lately that the combination of Ne and Fi (ENFP, INFP, ISTJ, and ESTJ) may lead to assumptions that are very strongly believed, yet ludicrously wrong. I'm not sure if this combination works out often enough for these types that they feel justified in the confidence of their assumptions, but it is clear that these types can jump to extremely false conclusions and defend them with their 'right to feel however they choose'. I'm trying to develop coping mechanisms for dealing with people who make false assumptions about me, my actions, and especially my motivations, then take very confident actions without ever letting me know what they have assumed, and then refusing to change their minds once the truth has been brought to light. At this point, my disdain for injustice is triggered, and I begin to lose a great deal of respect for those who do this, and have to force myself to not fight for what is right, as it will only make the situation worse, because somehow when someone comes to these sorts of conclusions it only bolsters their resolve when the target of them resists. This is one of the greatest sources of frustration, and correspondingly tension, I have with the people in these types, and I am wondering if anyone has any advice? Perhaps my fellow NFJ types have found ways to deal with it, or the lovely NFPs can explain the other side of this conflict and how best to defuse it? Here are some examples of what I am talking about... An ENFP friend of mine assumed that when my livejournal had a technical glitch that kept dropping my friends that it meant that I hated her and didn't want her in my life anymore, even after I explained the situation to her and forwarded the emails from tech support. Instead of changing her stance, she decided that this meant I was lying because it didn't support her original assumption. To this day, she actively insists that I am a terrible person, even though I've purposely never done anything against her. She simply refuses to believe I am not her enemy because of this incident, and any protest on my part is more proof of my lack of character. My mother is an ESTJ, and would regularly accuse me of stealing her things when they were lost. Even though I have never stolen anything from her, and have never borrowed anything without asking and as quickly as possible replacing, she would insist that I was lying if I told her that I didn't have it. In each of these incidents, the oblect would turn up where she had last left it, yet to this day she will accuse me of stealing things that she has lost if there is any possibility whatsoever that I could have done so. One of my INFP ex girlfriends convinced herself that there was no way I could actually love her, because she was Mexican, and the last two girls I dated were blonde. Because of this, she kept breaking up with me. I later found out that these sentiments were bolstered by the fact that I didn't fight her on the issue. Because I didn't want to fight about something that I didn't even understand, that meant I was even more guilty of it. Eventually, she married a guy that she settled for, even though she's told me repeatedly that she never loved anyone more than me. The problem was, I loved her and was perfectly willing to marry her, and told her so on several occasions, but she insisted that I was lying because it didn't match up with what she'd convinced herself of. Now she's stopped being friends with me because she can't believe that I won't try to get into her pants now that she's married, even though I've never tried with anyone. Here's the biggest problem. I don't lie. I've never seen the point in it. All of the people in the example know this, and that I've never lied to them about anything. Yet, when I refute these claims, they immediately accuse me of lying. And I have to say that it almost makes me more angry to be accused of lying as it does of whatever else I was accused of in the first place. But, the thing that infuriates me is the fact that they would shut themselves off with such certainty that they're willing to add insult to injury and further injustice to maintain their assumptions. They would rather escalate, attack, and bolster a wall between us than trust me to be the person I've always been, and have proven myself to be, time and again. It makes me so mad that I can't think clearly anymore. Does anyone have any advice? Thanks.