I agree that this is a perfectly legitimate way of finding at least a partial solution. Lets say 15% of all rapes are done by people who were severely abused as children. Lets now raise awareness and try to lessen the stigma of children speaking out about their abuse so instead of these abused children growing up in an environment that makes their rage fester they might have a chance at a life of sanity. Maybe by the generation after next these systems work enough to find half of those 15% before they become rapists, thats 7.5% fewer rapists and a lot of people who don't get raped.
I say thats progress.
And don't go on about my example, if you don't like it replace it with another in your head, I'm done fighting over trivialities.
Okay.....I'm not trying to fight with you. I'm simply
correcting you because I have a dominant personality and think I am always right.
ANYWAY, moving onwards!
It's impossible to narrow it down to something like 'well because this event happened to this person then that is why they did this'.
A lot of people who rape others have been abused sexually, too; but a lot haven't.
I mean, the research has been going on for decades stacked upon decades.
Rape isn't necessarily a dysfunctional thing that people who are crazy do. I am not saying it is right, but it can be used as a strategy in wars.
There are
so many motivations, reasons, explanations, personality and mental disorders, childhood trauma, relationship problems, etc. that could have caused someone to rape someone else that it's irrelevant to this topic.
We don't care
why people rape men.
We just care that it happened.
We just care about the ultimate question:
What do we do now?
Because when we ask ourselves 'why did this happen to me, why did they do that' as a survivor of rape, we aren't living in the present. We have to move on, we have to deal with our issues, go to our therapy sessions, press charges against the person who did it to us, talk about it, accept it....we have to deal with it.
That's the point I'm trying to make.
Theorize all you want about what makes people rape men.
I just want men to know that, despite social norms and expectations, they are welcome to come out with their stories of rape. I want to change the point of view that rape is for women. I mean, we shouldn't have to say rape is 'for' anyone. But what I mean by that is: rape doesn't only happen to women and children. Full grown, strong men, can be raped.
Some people have mentioned concerns about rape in prison. See, that's the sort of issue I am talking about. We don't need to theorize why people rape each other in prison. Sociology has studied it apparently, and has concluded that in usually all-men prisons sexual urges will cause men to have sex with other men. That's just how it works. Some of it is about power, but an important thing to note about prison rapes is Maslow's Hierarchy of needs. This
does not apply for everyone. Like me, for example. But it does to most.
The very bottom of this pyramid is physiological, and for sexual beings, which 99% of the human population are considered, sex is a need. This causes previously heterosexuals to seek out same sex partners to take out these frustrations, these demands, these needs on.
There have been reports and cases, in the instance of power, Prison Guards themselves participating in the raping of inmates. How do you think someone who went to prison for something heinous, like murder or rape, and then gets raped in prison by a guard is going to be treated when they come out with it? "He deserved it" usually comes up, disbelief. All normal reactions. But no one should be raped, no one deserves to be raped. And the men who are survivors are forced into silence. Why? Because they are afraid to say it.
"I am human, I have the same rights as everyone else, and I was raped against my will. I surrender my responsibility for it because it was not my fault; I couldn't have stopped it. I tried my best. I am not a victim, I am a survivor. And I want you, the people I love the most, to understand me. I want you to hear my cry, that if I was raped, it doesn't make me gay or weak. It just makes me a human survivor of a terrible crime. Please understand."
