Intimidating ENTP crush? What should I do?

That doesn't sound like any of the ENTPs I know. He sounds like an ESTJ but with the not talking to you directly, maybe an ISTJ who is outgoing.
I have no real advice for you here because I am avoidant with crushes as well. This has not deterred most people who are interested, so I do think that you will attract the person who fits you by being you. If you are too intimidated by him, maybe he is not a good match for you?

 

Caution, you're dealing with a weirdo

 

I used to test as ENTP when I thought being happy was a simple as exercising free will in whatever way appealled to my intellect and that was fitting in as well as being ever-so-slightly superior. I liked a quiet girl, probably ISFJ. I couldn't bridge that gap without losing face and others around didn't like my attitude. I think she saw through something in a way but I don't think she suspected what was really going on under the surface.

 

I second the weirdo thing but doubt that "careful" will get you anywhere.

 

Highly opinionated, insensitive, competitive, overbearing? Doesn't sound like the best boyfriend for a quiet and sensitive person. Unless you think you can play at his level and not come out hurt, it'd probably be better to stay away.

 

Don't box him in the ENTP box and rather pick apart the interactions - how does it really make you feel? Would it be worth pursuing if you will be feeling more drained and like you want to avoid him in the first place? It already sounds like he is holding back when he talks with you, because of the sensitivity. Also, why do you want to be noticed by him if you feel like avoiding him, would being noticed by someone else sound like a better option?

 

Loud and intimidating men are often insecure in some way. Maybe if you can collect the guts you could challenge him. If he likes you too I bet he'll appreciate it. No clue if you can pull that off though. Personally I love it if people challenge me in any way.

Don't think in MBTI terms. Think you about who he is.
I'm an advocate for not judging him on his extraverted sides. I'm also an advocate for opposites (but then again I love discussion and (contained/polite/reasonable) conflict), so if you say you're attracted to him because he's your opposite I'd say go for it!
His insensitivity might only be his social mask or it might be his true self. Go find out!

But then again I'm no girl and have no clue how you'd go about flirting like a girl.

 

Ask him out.






Do it.

 

here, i made you a flowchart to help you visualize your situation



good date ideas for mushy bleeding hearts (you) include coffee/lunch, a walk in the park, and hiking.
good date ideas for hardcore ENTPs include hardcore chess and other such 'stimulating' banalities. ymmv

 

NONONO don't just ask someone out ???

I agree with the people that are saying to be careful first. Why get involved with someone if you're not absolutely sure about it? I wouldn't go after someone I was just "kinda" having feelings for or not too sure about. Maybe you just need to get to know him better (if you want to). If he's already intimidating and confusing, imagine how that relationship would be like. Sometimes opposites attract but sometimes it can also blow up in our faces.

I dated a guy like the one you describe and while it was wonderful, I was pressured for physical intimacy, asked to go out drinking or smoking and 'party'. And that wasn't me. Our opinions clashed and while he said he "loves to argue" , it turned to fighting really quick.

so yea be careful

 

Perhaps that is your brain subconsciously longing for growth and change, which you won't get if you keep at a distance. Maybe don't pursue this particular guy as he clearly makes you uncomfortable... Perhaps try finding a nice INTP or some such logic type that offers the same perks without the overbearing personality.

 

I'm confused to what you exactly like about him? It appears that you're intimidated by him and describe him in a negative light.

Perhaps if you could describe more what you like about him/ why you're attracted to him, people might be better equipped to help you aside from random ambiguities in which there does not seem to be enough information at hand to make an assessment.

However, I also wonder how you know he is an ENTP if you do not know him well? I've seen ESFJs, ESTPs, INTJs, ESFPs act in a similar manner. It's really not conducive towards yourself to immediately type him without getting to know him, because oftentimes, people are wrong in their type assessments.

I also think if you were truly interested in him, perhaps smiling at him would signal reciprocated interest.

 

Crap! I haven't been pressured for sex or been forced to go out and "party" and drink and smoke in tooooooo long......

 

From the way you describe him, he kind of sounds like an INTJ.

Maybe you should get to know him before making any sort of decisions. The worst that could happen is that the two of you end up as platonic friends.