INFJ Men and Babies

Just say no.

 

i don't want to hurt them! what if i say the wrong thing and scar them for life!

 

I've raised 5, so that would be a No! I did have a similar attitude to yours when I was young. Never really wanted to be around them or had any interest in them. Attitudes change with time my friend.

 

Babies and children tend to love me, I know I used to be deathly afraid whenever a mother would hand me their baby for a moment...they are so delicate, in my arms they look so tiny ><

Even though I have none I know they are our future, so I figure if I have any interaction with a child then I need to make sure it is a good experience for them. Plus I just can't help but get the ooohs and awwws from little babies, I get to be overly expressive with my face...get them to smiling and then inevitably they grab a fistfull of my beard or goatee.

 

I agree with the OP, I also can't stand babies for the exact reasons said. They eat sleep poop and cry, that's it. I have never liked babies and I dont think I ever will. I want to have a child of my own one day, but the problem is I don't know if I could do the baby thing for a year. I'd want to give it up.

 

Other people's babies - yes. I want to be involved from point A - Z, not catch a brief moment of their life. There are certina morals and lessons I'd teach my kids right from the start that I'm not able to do with someone else's... at least not without them screaming their heads off and threatening me!

 

I think it's different when dealing with a different child versus dealing with your own. I get uncomfortable around other people's babies, though I know I would really love my own.
Although I'm not male. So whatever.

 

Other peoples babies are screaming red little flesh mounds.

 

They are. Fuck other peoples' babies.

But I tell you, my baby is going to be a cute cherub of joy and happiness.

 

Our baby.

 

I'm the same as Skathac with the fear of hurting babies while holding them. Especially a newborn since they won't support their own head while you hold. You need to steady their head while letting them loll it and breathe. That scares me the most. As far as the 'disgusting things' go; wear a shirt you don't mind it getting dirty.

My cousin actually had her first child last March during spring break and I couldn't have been more giddy to get to hold little Emily in my arms. Her whole hand couldn't even wrap around my pinkie. But with how much I'm away from my family I probably won't even get to see her (or any of my other baby cousins) until the winter holidays.

 

I typically don't mind babies themselves, but cannot stand the way so many adults make fools of themselves when they are near.

Adults should not feel the need to constantly entertain the little ones, and should never use baby voices (these are annoying in themselves, they make it take longer for infants to lean to talk properly, and make children's voices higher and more annoying). I tend to be a calming influence around young children, but I don't like the short attention spans engendered by those constantly trying to arouse a child's interest.


I would not such mind babies as I once was. I always had a long attention span, and was quiet but friendly. I never cried for attention, food, or changing, although i did sometimes cry in the bath due to pain from the soapy water irritating the circumcision. I started speaking at 5 months old, was using complete sentences by 7 months, and while my pronunciation was not yet perfect I was making literary allusions at 9 months old. (The most repeated example is that when I at that age saw my dad running up a hill as part of a marathon I said "Huh, that daddy-man shu-shu twain tink he can," in reference to The Little Engine That Could.) I was strong enough to roll over at one day old, but took a while to develop other motor skills. I did however learn to walk (with a hand on the wall for support) several months before I could crawl.

 

Do they make ballgags for babies?

Those rednoses from red nose day would make a good ballgag, they already have elastic.

 

I'm not a menz, but other people's babies make me nervous.

 

I know an INFJ male who will never have children. He

 

I'm very baby-shy. I, like a couple of other posters, am anxious about hurting them accidentally. I love it, however, when someone else is holding a baby and that baby takes a liking/fascination with me - they really are sooooo cute.

I don't think I'll ever have children of my own - not because I dislike children, but because I don't think I would make a good father.

 

baby talk

The 2nd part of your post is obviously facetious, but I can't tell if the 1st part is also...

That "annoying" baby voice you speak of it called motherese. It occurs in all cultures and is a very common and natural way to interact with infants. It has no negative effect on their language development. As for "constantly entertaining" them - this is how humans develop, learn language, nonverbal skills, everything.

 

Bah, I can't stand that annoying baby language either. It seems most 14 - 22 year olds type using it.

 

You may want to rephrase that.