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INFJ Friend Is Done With Me?

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    I would have agreed is he had wanted to hang out with me. But he never wanted to hang out with me. He even told me he only hangs out with very few people. He also the second time I went to his place seemed disgruntled and the next day told me “Don't get used to it because he's moving soon". He moved soon after and never told me where his new apartment was. I guarantee you he does not miss me one bit.
     
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    I don't really see why the total shift away then. Maybe he sees more of something in what you have done, what he thinks you have done, to him.

    You know in this I read a real spiral downwards of friends that just bounced one bad reaction on top of another until it became all too much for him.

    People react very differently to situations and it doesn't mean that he doesn't still like you. He possibly has problems with expressing himself and communicating.

    When you have few friends, the ones you do make generally have a profound effect on you.
     
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    I did ask him to tell me what I did wrong in countless ways. He just said nothing has changed while getting more and more dismissive of me. I am not one of his good friends as he basically indirectly told me. Truth be told I don't think he ever really liked me.

    I think he was just trying to be nice or polite as is his nature usually. But I don't think he wanted friendship. So the fact that I did got him more and more frustrated. I don't understand why he couldn't have been more upfront earlier, especially when he realised that I was trying really hard to figure out what I was doing wrong. I was always apologising and he was getting increasing dismissive.

    He never wanted to be friends and he didn't want to say it. He took the cowardly way out and was hoping I'd figure things out and go away on good terms. The only thing I did wrong and which I apologized for no less than 10 times, was when he was heavily intoxicated and he and I fooled around a little bit. He told me he wants to forget that issue and that I should stop apologising.
     
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