I don't get it. Seriously, i've got this vibe from two of the women that i've slept with in my life. And it not only mystifies me, but it creeps me out -- especially if we've really only known each other well for a week or so.
Sex is a lot of things to me. It's a recreational activity, and an opportunity to develop a deep personal bond, it's fantasy and mutual giving, its a skill which one gains proficiency in and eventuall masters. The ideal here is that one has it for these purposes, and then makes kids when they're stable and confident.
To me having a child is not really an option at this point. Don't get me wrong, I think children are wonderful. However, the thought of having one while not being certain i'm equipped to have it. Urgh!
Anyways, what's up with these kinds of women? Are they tired of transient relationships and want to settle down? Do they see me as stable and thus a proper vector for the bearing of their biological urges? Some nice guy who will stay at home with the kids while mom is out having fun? Is there other reasons for this?
I don't know why but its kind of bugging me today.
Sex is a lot of things to me. It's a recreational activity, and an opportunity to develop a deep personal bond, it's fantasy and mutual giving, its a skill which one gains proficiency in and eventuall masters. The ideal here is that one has it for these purposes, and then makes kids when they're stable and confident.
To me having a child is not really an option at this point. Don't get me wrong, I think children are wonderful. However, the thought of having one while not being certain i'm equipped to have it. Urgh!
Anyways, what's up with these kinds of women? Are they tired of transient relationships and want to settle down? Do they see me as stable and thus a proper vector for the bearing of their biological urges? Some nice guy who will stay at home with the kids while mom is out having fun? Is there other reasons for this?
I don't know why but its kind of bugging me today.