You are underage, so nevermind.
I think I realize I'm up there with the forum geezers ... and therefore, my advice is null.
I'm on exchange and there's an INFJ girl in my new friends group. She's all environmental and doesn't eat meat if she doesn't know its origin. I do happily eat all the bad meat and we discuss the topic sometimes. When we first did she was surprised about how well I knew about it and that I knew that it's bad for the environment. She was visibly upset that I still ate the bad meat knowing it's bad for the environment. We argued a lot that night and kept trying to make stupid jokes about the other. There was so much (attractive) tension, I loved it. She joked about just talking to other people, because I was being annoying. She didn't though, we just kept on arguing. A bit later we did stop and we didn't talk much the rest of the night.
I guess/hope she shares your opinion. I'm the idiot who always thinks he's right, yet that's somehow quite attractive
I like her because she challenges what I say. Most people just take it for granted if I say something.
I like to assume a lot too. Let me explain that perspective. I assume a lot. I make a lot of guesses. But if you prove me wrong, I'll change my assumptions.
People that never express their assumptions will never have their assumptions checked. Only if I share what I assume, others can teach me what is right. This is the way I learn.
If you really want to take distance, stop doing that. Let him be with his claims. Just ignore.
), is he really shallow?
I completely understand now. Are you direct or reserve when you express yourself?If you really want to take distance, stop doing that. Let him be with his claims. Just ignore.
But to defend him (as I'm now being compared to him
For me there's also a huge difference between assuming something in a discussion and actually believing it.
I'm incredibly critical of my beliefs and I actively seek to prove myself wrong. I can spend hours on the internet searching for arguments against my beliefs.
But I'll always assume and express what I believe to be true to that point. I'm quite convinced of most of my beliefs, because I checked them well.
Then I spray my beliefs and claims of truth, even if they're weak. The goal of this is that even more people can check them and teach me better beliefs. That way I can improve them.
If I never make claims or assumptions and I never share them, how can I ever find good ones?
I can't promise that he uses the same justification for spraying his claims around, maybe he's just a know-it-all who isn't willing to change his beliefs.
Yes. I am trying to do that as well as keeping my distance from him but I sense that he's hurt by it. Plus the boy is very headstrong! So far Erlian's advise on distracting myself when it gets intense is helping ....so far.
I don't want to say or do anything that I will later regret. For example, blurt out how I feel about him or go as far as physically hurting him.
I don't want to give him anymore attention. Knowing this hardhead he will do anything to get my attention, so pushing him away is not even an option and that is annoying.
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