high school friends, college friends, or none? | INFJ Forum

high school friends, college friends, or none?

Discussion in 'Relationships and Sociology' started by soulseeker, Jun 2, 2009.

Share This Page

More threads by soulseeker
  1. soulseeker

    soulseeker Permanent Fixture

    Joined:
    Dec 19, 2008
    Threads:
    77
    Messages:
    1,112
    Likes Received:
    109
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    where did you find a real true friend?:m032:

    from which group of friends are you more attached to?

    based from your experiences, did you have more close friends in high school or college?

    or....did you find a real true friend in work or other place than in school.
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  2. Liv

    Liv Community Member

    Joined:
    Mar 21, 2009
    Threads:
    2
    Messages:
    326
    Likes Received:
    7
    Trophy Points:
    165
    MBTI:
    infj
    any true friends ive had have generally been found by chance actually,a friend of a friend kind of thing,then we just ended up bumping into each other in the same places.I have two really good friends and id do anything for them.they were friends of mine when we were younger and then we ended up hanging out together in college after having lost contact for years.this happened when one of them ended up dating my then boyfriends best friend which was cool.
    i prefer when i make friends outside specific social settings as it doesnt restrict associations to one location etc.that way if you change jobs or move schools the friendship is just as strong as it was before!
     
  3. slant

    slant Sedated slanty

    Joined:
    Dec 30, 2008
    Threads:
    330
    Messages:
    10,080
    Featured Threads:
    38
    Likes Received:
    14,841
    Trophy Points:
    1,741
    Gender:
    Female
    MBTI:
    Infp
    Enneagram:
    6-4-9
    I don't believe in 'real true friends'. I enjoy my cousins, but if you are talking about non-related friends, I currently retain the number 2 which were from Highschool. Being ENFPs, they were drawn to me and once they came they stayed very loyal. Sure, they are stupid and do not have anything midly interesting to say, but at least when I want someone to come over and watch a movie with me they will come and stay for five hours too long to drive me out of my mind. Actually, thinking about it, It's a good thing that I have such sticking-to-me-like-glue friend, because I have said many socially unacceptable remarks to them that would normally appall a person. I also have no friends outside of this people, and am never motivated to make friends. So in the event that these people were gone, I would, in essence, be socially screwed.
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  4. firstjudge

    firstjudge Regular Poster

    Joined:
    May 3, 2009
    Threads:
    5
    Messages:
    65
    Likes Received:
    3
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    I had some good friends in HS. Many of them began to irritate me because of their immaturity + I was going through pretty bad depression, leading me to cut them off entirely. So I lost a lot of friends in that period. My college friends are more acquaintances than close friends. There is one or two that I see once in a while but that's about it. I don't make friends easily because I put up walls around me when meeting new people which makes me come off as cold at times.
     
  5. IndigoSensor

    IndigoSensor Product Obtained
    Retired Staff

    Joined:
    Nov 12, 2008
    Threads:
    762
    Messages:
    14,154
    Likes Received:
    1,285
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    Enneagram:
    1w2 sx/so/sp
    I have 3 very close friends from highschool that I still talk to. The rest remain mostly aquaintiances.

    I have 2 friends out here at college that I feel as close, or closer to. My circle of friends is larger out at college as well.
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  6. Faye

    Faye ^_^
    Staff Member Administrator

    Joined:
    Mar 9, 2009
    Threads:
    311
    Messages:
    7,276
    Featured Threads:
    4
    Likes Received:
    4,592
    Trophy Points:
    892
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Gridania
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    Enneagram:
    4w5
    I had basically no friends in high school, and I have several pretty good friends in college. I don't have any best friends, which is what I really want, but maybe I'll find some soon enough.
     
  7. Jana

    Jana Searching...

    Joined:
    Apr 18, 2009
    Threads:
    81
    Messages:
    2,080
    Likes Received:
    387
    Trophy Points:
    642
    MBTI:
    infj
    One from higschool, 2 from university, 2 from my working place. Though, "true friend" is questionable concept. These are my good friends, somebody understands me better in one way and somebody else in another. They are important to me, but with every of them I had different phazes in friendship.
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  8. Lune Froide

    Lune Froide Community Member

    Joined:
    Apr 20, 2009
    Threads:
    10
    Messages:
    439
    Likes Received:
    17
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    Enneagram:
    4wX
    I had quite a few friends whom I was very close to in high school but then my perspective began to alter once we were out and I no longer put as much value on having a 'best' or 'true' friend. I guess then I could say I don't have as many in college!

    I enjoy good company once in awhile now and I know that I can turn to any past 'true' friends if i'm going through chaotic times.

    My friendships have also happened by chance just as Liv described!
     
  9. v.shadow

    v.shadow Community Member

    Joined:
    Dec 15, 2008
    Threads:
    3
    Messages:
    593
    Likes Received:
    16
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    I think I am quite "selective" with my friends, cause there's only one I call my friend (the rest have dissapointed me greatly in some moment or another, so they end up being just "people I know"). I have met all of them in highschool.
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
    #9 v.shadow, Jun 5, 2009
    Last edited: Jun 5, 2009
  10. court

    court Newbie

    Joined:
    Jun 4, 2009
    Threads:
    2
    Messages:
    13
    Likes Received:
    0
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    I actually have no friends. Honestly, it doesn't bother me too much but it would be nice to have someone to commiserate with every now and then.
     
  11. IndigoSensor

    IndigoSensor Product Obtained
    Retired Staff

    Joined:
    Nov 12, 2008
    Threads:
    762
    Messages:
    14,154
    Likes Received:
    1,285
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    Enneagram:
    1w2 sx/so/sp
    I find that hard to believe. I can understand I's not needing or wanting alot of friends. However, I can not see an I_F_ be healthy with no friends to speak of what so ever.
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  12. firstjudge

    firstjudge Regular Poster

    Joined:
    May 3, 2009
    Threads:
    5
    Messages:
    65
    Likes Received:
    3
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    I need some people in my life I just know that. I cannot be completely alone. Even if its a few acquaintances, and no friends.
     
  13. thats.mana

    Joined:
    May 5, 2009
    Threads:
    1
    Messages:
    4
    Likes Received:
    0
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    infj
    If I did not have a brother, sister, and close family I don't think I would have any friends. It's not that I don't want friends, it's just making close friends is difficult. I tend to prefer friendships that require little to no management. To answer the original question, I have no friends form school.
     
  14. RetardedMonkey

    RetardedMonkey Community Member

    Joined:
    May 19, 2009
    Threads:
    6
    Messages:
    680
    Likes Received:
    26
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    ENFJ
    I dont' have any close friends now and none from high school anymore. I think the closest friend I had was someone I randomly met online a few years ago. We hung out with each other as often as we could and were very close for about a year or so. Then I moved and we drifted apart. :(
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  15. rainrise

    rainrise Community Member

    Joined:
    Mar 21, 2009
    Threads:
    29
    Messages:
    743
    Likes Received:
    23
    Trophy Points:
    577
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    i have many acquaintances, most i almost never see but who i maintain good relations with.

    i do have a few close friendships and for that i am grateful.

    however, i would say i have either not come across or have not been able to cultivate a friendship with anyone who i could bare my innermost self to.
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  16. Puck

    Puck Perilous Pixie
    Donor

    Joined:
    Apr 8, 2009
    Threads:
    33
    Messages:
    2,142
    Likes Received:
    460
    Trophy Points:
    215
    MBTI:
    Hey Ho
    Enneagram:
    flibble
    I'm my own (best) friend. I'd love to have a circle of close friends, but I've given up chasing after it.
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  17. Quest

    Quest Community Member

    Joined:
    Jun 6, 2009
    Threads:
    5
    Messages:
    778
    Likes Received:
    37
    Trophy Points:
    587
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    Enneagram:
    x
    In middle sch, I had lots of friends and a few best friends. In high sch, I had one good friend. When I started Uni, I had one good friend. We were not that close, but we were close enough to study together and go out once in a while. We've lost touch now. Even though I've had at least a friend throughout my sch periods (middle sch, high sch, etc), I've always felt alone, even when I was with them, so I've never really felt like I had any friends at all since middle sch and especially in high sch. Right now, I've no friends, and I used to worry a lil' about it, but I don't even think about it anymore. I do wish I had at least one friend and if I find one, great, and if not, great. It's the last thing I'm thinking about right now. And I'm learning to be my on best friend, like Helpful_Elf and I think that's really all that matters anyway and what should come first above anything else.
     
Loading...

Share This Page