Do you guys ever get the feeling that your gifts lead to people feeling both jealous and contemptuous of you, and never into them thinking you're cool and wanting to hang around with you? If so, why do you think that is?
It depends. If someone is defined by or defines themselves by their giftedness, then they may exude a persona which evokes superiority or complexity, which some will find a turn off. People are sometimes intimidated or put off my people who excel at things or who seems to be better than average at something. They assume the person is not relatable. It can make them feel inferior or make them question their own talents or gifts in comparison.
Are they uncomfortable exhibiting certain behaviors around you?My reasoning is because in a group, people are obviously not themselves. Proof of this is observing how they act differently with you or someone else alone then observing them in a group.
Are they uncomfortable exhibiting certain behaviors around you?
This is considered healthy?No, it's a common sociological observation that people will change the way they act around others to fit in.
Are you a Rogerian theorist?But when some of them are alone with me, I'm warm and friendly and they respond positively to that.
Depends on your definition of healthy. It's considered normal, though.This is considered healthy?
I had to look that up. From reading the gist of it...I guess you could say so? But not by intention.Are you a Rogerian theorist?
Do you guys ever get the feeling that your gifts lead to people feeling both jealous and contemptuous of you, and never into them thinking you're cool and wanting to hang around with you? If so, why do you think that is?
+1 well said!The problem with looking at oneself as "giftedness' is that there is sometimes the tendency to believe that many people can't relate to you or understand you or that you're "special". This attitude is what many respond to rather than whether or not you're gifted. Also, too many people get too caught in thinking that gifted or highly intelligent means they know everything. They don't realise the limits to what they know or understand. So, they will think they are superior in some ways but not realise where they are ignorant or lack awareness in others. They are so caught up in what they know or are good at that they're not aware that there are gaps in their knowledge in other areas. Gifted in one thing doesn't mean you're gifted in everything.
Humility helps a little as well.