Thing about feeling is that it's easy to fall into stereotypes. I was a very emotionally sensitive child, and most would often respond to me sensitively. They saw it only as a negative or a weakness and rarely as a positive. They either were too harsh, rough or walked on egg shells around me. This colored my perception of who i was or how negatively I saw my characteristics. I was treated as someone who needed to be caudled or handled delicately. As a result, I always felt compelled to act or behave as others expected, acting out "feeler" stereotypes rather than feeling as I had a self outside of how I was treated or what was expected.
Now that i am older, I realize that some of what i displayed was really a reflection of what others expected of someone who was considered emotionally expressive. Since there was limited understanding or appreciation of this level of sensitivity, especially treated as a sign of weakness, I learned to resent everyone for treating me as this overly sensitive person whose qualities were a defect rather than a personality quirk.
In most cases, people pitied who and how i was because of the level of emotionality or sensitivity. Some still do this today, which amazes me. They treat a quieter, less assertive personality as a sign of inability to speak up for oneself or as a sign that you don't know who you are, and what you're capable of. They see it as a childlike quality rather than realize and accept that I really don't feel the need interact with people in a dominant, assertive way.
I don't have a need to rebel or prove my value to someone nor do I need to exert a controlling influence over what others think, feel, or do. So, if this is interpreted as meekness or weakness, then by all means this is fine. But, just a warning, don't mistake my "feeling" for weakening. It's a choice.
So, how something is interpreted has a strong effect on how we see ourselves. If a quality or trait is treated as a flaw or defect, than we may see and feel less, devalued, or inadequate because of these characteristics. If we are socialized to think it's always positive, then that's another extreme. But if we learn the pros and cons or strengths and potential weaknesses of this quality, without feeling that we are less because of these qualities, then we're more likely to have positive experiences of being "feelers" and will be much better able to manage our feelings and handle our emotions more efficiently and effectively.
Over the years, I came to realize that in many cases, all I ever really wanted or needed was a fair amount of understanding, and when someone gave this without pitying me, it did a lot to build my self esteem.
Understanding goes a long way . . .