- Aug 21, 2015
Does your life seem different to you? Now?
Life is different all the time. Everything shifts, whether you'd like it to or not, as you grow.
Understanding the mbti types and how they apply to people helped me not only to understand myself a but better, but to understand others from the past and present too.
It's not perfect, but close enough.
This is important to me. Of course, MBTI is not perfect, but it categorizes people and explains why they think and act as they do and enables people to accept each other and understand each other. It is especially useful for personality types that don't mesh as easily, for overcoming misunderstandings, or for explaining people's reactions.
I learned my type in my late teens when I took the official test. I rejected it because I thought I should be an ISFJ, the artist. I took the test a few more times because of a friend who was really into MBTI, always got INFJ. I rejected MBTI. About 10-12 years ago I took the test again, got INFJ again, and sat down to read about what that meant. In that literature I found a lot of information about life-long behaviors, many of which made me cringe, many of which my (extremely extroverted and social, Fe-driven) mother disliked about me, but also all of those good traits. For the first time I felt like I wasn't broken or messed up because my behaviors, the way my brain functions, etc, were "different". I understood that there were people all over the world like me and these traits were natural and acceptable. I also accepted who I was and stopped fighting parts of myself that were indicative of the INFJ personality. It helped me map out my life better because I understood I was hardwired for some things and not others. Even though humans can learn to do things, we're better at doing what we're "made for".
I still force some aspects of my personality that I’ve trained myself to have to fit in with my social group before I understood that how I am naturally is acceptable. In time I’ll learn to let those go.
A good example of wiring: We are either detail-oriented or big picture thinkers. We all do both, but we are "hard wired" for one over the other. I've been in work environments where this showed. I've left jobs where being extremely detail-oriented was a necessity and being a big-picture thinker didn't factor in. I know I am a big-picture thinker.
INFJs are also not team players. We can fake it, but that is not where we excel. I always thought there was something wrong with me before I learned that. I shut down in groups. I can force it, sure, but it is forced.